Welcome to Style Your Mind, a podcast for women who want to design their thoughts, empower themselves, and build a beautiful life.

I'm your host, Kara Al-Waleba, best-selling author and master life coach.

I am obsessed with women on the edge of change, and I've worked with hundreds of those women all around the world to help them unlock the best

version of themselves and fulfill their potential. If you're ready to style your mind and transform

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Hey guys and welcome back to style your mind. So this is an exciting episode. I'm recording this from my

hotel room in London. I'm here for the next two weeks doing a little girl game meetup for my

sleigh babies and some other top secret stuff that I'll be able to share with you guys very,

very soon. I love London. It's just such a great city. I'm a New Yorker, so London to me is like the pretty kind of posh version of New York. So I love when I have the chance to come over here and hang out and do some cool stuff. So I just want to kind of give a disclaimer. I have been up for, oh God, I don't, 30 hours at this point. I don't sleep on planes, you guys. I don't know about you, but I took the red eye last night, didn't sleep. I was up all day and I'm kind of just powering through this jet lag and I was in my room sitting around, I had a glass of wine and I'm like, what am I going to do? Why don't I do a podcast? It's perfect opportunity

to kind of harness this energy, harness this creative energy and make something awesome for you

guys listening. So this is something I've wanted to talk about for a while. And by the way,

side note, excuse my voice. I feel like I sound like a frog. It's like, you know, when you fly and it's

like really dry, the air is really dry. I've been like, I think that weird dry cough. So if I sound a little

weird, that's why. But anyway, I have been wanting to talk about the concept of expectations

for a really long time. And I feel like it's been coming up for me a lot lately. And I don't know if it's

the moon or retrograde or whatever, whatever we want to blame it on. But I've noticed that my

expectations that I'm kind of putting on other people are coming to light a lot lately. And it's

just one of those things. You know, we all have those things

that we do, those kind of habits or those things that we sort of want to shake, but we have a really

hard time getting rid of. I am the kind of person who sets a really high bar for myself.

So when I'm going to do something, I'm doing it all the way. When I treat someone a certain way,

I'm giving them all of me. I want to, you know, make people feel great. I want to make people

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