Good morning and welcome to the Increase Your Impact Podcast. I'm Justin Sua, episode 2,2005. When things get hard, you're going to hear people say, just be positive. But that advice is often misunderstood, especially if the situation is incredibly difficult. Positiveity isn't about slapping a smile on your face and acting like nothing's wrong it's not standing

in front of a mirror and repeating meaningless phrases or mantras it's not pretending good things will

happen just because you hope them to be so and it's not ignoring the brutal facts and trying to run away

from how things really are.

This version of positivity, it doesn't hold up when things are difficult.

What positivity actually looks like is, number one, is accepting that the situation is hard

and focusing on what you're going to do about it.

It's looking for the lesson or the information inside of the adversity you're facing,

the things that you're going to be able to carry with you throughout your life.

The third thing is it's noticing what's going right instead of just focusing on what's wrong.

The fourth is understanding you won't be perfect.

And we need to give ourselves permission to have a clean slate.

The next morning, when the sun comes up, it's a new day, a new opportunity to get better.

And finally, fifth, it's focusing on what you can control instead of letting the situation

control you.

So my invitation to you today is when you feel inclined to tell yourself to just be positive,

to pause and remind yourself that you need to be more specific to pick one of those five

things and actually practice it.

Hopefully you enjoyed this episode and we'll do it again next time. And for those of you who do not know if you head over to my Instagram account at Justin Sua, J-U-S-T-I-N-S-U-A, and go in direct message me, DM me, impact i m pP-A-C-T, I almost forgot to spell it, impact, you will join my mail

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Have a great day and we'll do it again next time.

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