Good morning and welcome to the Increase Your Impact podcast. I'm Justin Sua, episode 2165.

We've spoken about this principle very often. The things that you try to control but can't end up

controlling you. As leaders, we are constantly trying to influence, trying to navigate.

And in some cases, trying to control outcomes and people and situations.

And it becomes very frustrating when we try to control things and can't.

And those things end up controlling us.

And then we start beating up on ourselves,

getting tired of needing whatever isn't happening.

I need this person to validate what I'm doing.

I need these results.

I need to have confidence, but it just doesn't show up.

And the more you need it, the more you want it, the more it doesn't show up, the more frustrated

you get. And so one of the things, ways to combat that is to train yourself to stop needing it to reframe it and to change

the story you tell yourself because the story you're currently telling yourself that you need it that

you want it that you can control it it's hurting you it's hindering. And it may be hurting you mentally and emotionally and

physically. And at the end of the day, you ultimately just need to let go of that thing. Stop checking for it.

Stop looking for it. Stop expecting that you can do something about it. And then something interesting

happens. Once you stop needing it,

once you stop checking for it, once you stop wanting it or trying to control it, it starts to

lose power over you. You stop, you end up realizing that it can no longer control you and that's where the peace comes from and then the

longer you go without checking for that and needing that it becomes easier to live without it and at first

it might be hard at first you you might it might feel foreign you might even miss it in in some cases but then you

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