Episode 189: Divorcing with Children with Special Needs with Mary Anne Hughes
The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Kate Anthony
4.4 • 574 Ratings
🗓️ 13 October 2022
⏱️ 51 minutes
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Summary
Mary Ann Hughes is the proud mother of two sons on opposite ends of the autism spectrum. Today she joins me for a conversation about going through a divorce when you have children with special needs.
During her divorce, Mary Ann successfully advocated for her children's needs. As a result, she started Special Family Transitions to help families navigate the overwhelm and complexities of special needs divorce to get the best possible outcome, with as little time, money, and stress as possible. Today, she joins me for a conversation about navigating divorce in the midst of parenting (and eventually co-parenting) children with disabilities.
Combining her experience and certifications as a Certified Divorce Coach, Certified Divorce Specialist, member of the National Association of Divorce Professionals, MBA, and years of special needs advocacy, Mary Ann is committed to supporting families with children with disabilities as a valued special needs divorce coach and consultant.
Show Highlights
- Transitions can be hard for neurodivergent children – Mary Ann shares how parents approach the decision-making process of divorce
- The impact of divorce on children with disabilities
- How to co-parent with kids with special needs when a parent is not engaged or doesn't prioritize the children
- How and why you may want to set up a trust for your children
- What you need to know about divorce when you have kids on the spectrum
Learn more about Mary Ann Hughes:
As a mom of two boys on the autism spectrum who unexpectedly faced divorce after 21 years of marriage, Mary Ann Hughes had to learn how to navigate the complexities of special needs divorce, to effectively advocate for her children's needs and get a great result for her family in my divorce. Mary Ann formed Special Family Transitions and became a Special Needs Divorce Coach and Consultant so other moms of children with disabilities wouldn't have to spend the time, money, and emotional energy she did when faced with divorce.
Mary Ann is on a mission to help mothers gain the confidence, skills and knowledge to successfully overcome the overwhelm and challenges of special needs divorce, to achieve the best possible result for their family. Mary Ann combines her experiences as a Certified Divorce Coach, Certified Divorce Transition and Recovery Coach, Certified Divorce Specialist, Certified Life Coach, member of National Association of Divorce Professionals and NADP Special Needs Chapter, LoneStar LEND Leadership Education in Autism and Neurodevelopmental Disabilities Fellow, MBA with a successful career in Fortune 100 companies (pre-kids), and years of special needs training and advocacy, to help her clients effectively advocate for themselves and their children in special needs divorce.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go. |
| 0:17.8 | I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate |
| 0:22.8 | some of the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. |
| 0:28.5 | I've been to hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other |
| 0:33.9 | side of this process with your sanity and your heart intact. |
| 0:44.2 | Hey everyone. How's everyone doing? I'm going to share with you that I'm in a little bit of a menopausal slump. |
| 1:00.0 | Y'all, it's no joke. |
| 1:03.1 | And the only reason I tell you this is that I had dinner with a dear friend of mine last |
| 1:07.3 | night who was just diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. |
| 1:12.3 | And she's learning so much and she's actually going back to school to, I think, become a |
| 1:20.6 | naturopath or I can't remember exactly what she's what she's doing. |
| 1:24.4 | But because the learning in her journey through this has been so enormous and she wants |
| 1:32.2 | to be able to share it with everybody. And, you know, one of the things we were talking about last |
| 1:36.1 | night is that, first of all, she said that apparently type 2 diabetes diagnoses have skyrocketed since the pandemic. And I think there are, |
| 1:49.6 | you know, there are a lot of reasons for that. One of the other things that we were talking about |
| 1:53.8 | is that also, apparently, type 2 diabetes is very strongly connected to menopause. |
| 2:03.5 | And just talking about how little we know, even as women, right, how little we know, |
| 2:10.2 | how little information is out there about menopause and what is really happening in our bodies. |
| 2:16.7 | And we know that we're having hot flashes and, you know, whatever. |
| 2:20.7 | But, you know, the myth, I think, certainly that I thought and she thought too, |
| 2:26.9 | was that like once you get through perimenopause, because we know that perimenopause sucks. |
| 2:32.0 | But once you get through paramenopause and you're in full-blown menopause, |
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