Welcome to the Bear Marriage Podcast, I'm Sheila Ray Greagwar from Bear Marriage.com where we like to talk about healthy evidence-based biblical advice for your marriage and your parenting.

And today we are on episode 187 of the Bear Marriage Podcast, and we are going to talk about

boundaries. Our new book, She Deserves Better, launches next week, April 18th, so I'm so excited

about that. We're only five days away now Rebecca yeah

that's crazy and so joining me of course is my daughter Rebecca Lindenbach

one of the co-authors on she deserves better and one of the co-authors on our

groundbreaking book great sex rescue and and she deserves better was based on

deserves better was based on another huge survey that we did of 7,000 women,

predominantly evangelical women, to see how messages that they received in church as teens

affects them long term throughout their lifetime and affects their relationship health.

And you know the interesting thing is that when we talk about this, we often focus on purity culture that came in kind of when around the time you were born and was definitely there when you were in youth group.

So sort of around like 1993. the time you were born and was definitely there when you were in youth group.

So sort of around like 1995 to maybe 2015, although I think it's still very much there.

Oh, it is very much there still, yeah.

It's just not as blatant. But you know there's also other messages because I didn't

get the purity culture stuff. I grew up in Canada in the 80s and youth group but I did get stuff

about boundaries and that's what I want to talk about today.

You know when we were in youth group we were really focused on evangelism.

Let's pray for the unreached nations of the world.

Let's figure out how to reach our schools for Christ.

Let's start Christian groups on our high school campuses.

That was our aim when I was in high school.

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