it was such a strange thing and when it left my lips I was just like what happened why did I say that and but then I realized why I said that because as soon as I said that as soon as I said the word massage marks jaw dropped and he said to me, well, actually, it's so strange

that you say that because I've been wanting to tell you

this since the beginning, but I haven't gathered the courage.

And today you said this whole massage thing.

And it turned out he confided me that he'd been

going to massage parlors and that that's something that's filled him with a ton of

shame and a lot of guilt and that was the real reason he came to treatment.

Hey everybody before we start the, I want to make a couple disclaimers.

This show does cover a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general,

and some of those could be sensitive for you.

I want to simultaneously

encourage you to be brave and consuming difficult content but also respect

and recognize your limitations. So please use your best judgment. I will never be

offended if you need to skip a question or an episode entirely,

but feel free to feel it out, check out the episode and just see what happens. If you need to skip,

that's okay. But you know, feel free to give it a shot first. I also need to say that while I am a

psychologist I'm not your psychologist and I'm not your therapist. This is not intended to be

direct medical advice and you should not use this as a substitute for professional help.

So with those said, let's go ahead and get into the show. All right.

Hello friends of all varieties, this is the Hardcore Self-Help Podcast episode 169.

I'm your host Dr. Robert Duff, aka Duff the Psych.

I make mental health content for real people just like you and today I have an

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