Episode #16: Guilt, Shame and being "SO OCD" with CBT ROCKSTAR Shala Nicely
Your Anxiety Toolkit - Practical Skills for Anxiety, Panic & Depression
Kimberley Quinlan, LMFT | Anxiety & OCD Specialist
4.9 • 882 Ratings
🗓️ 20 July 2017
⏱️ 37 minutes
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GUILT, SHAME and being "SO OCD" with Shala Nicely
I am honored to share with you a recent interview I did with OCD ROCKSTAR and dear friend, Shala Nicely. Shala is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Atlanta and treats OCD and OCD Spectrum Disorders using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. I briefly outlined the conversation and left all the links discussed during the podcast. Enjoy!
Shala recently wrote an awesome blog post article about a top women's magazine that posted an article encouraging readers to "be a little OCD!" Shala declared enough was enough and got writing. Shala and her ROCKSTAR mom are doing so much to advocate for the OCD community. See the below link to check it out. http://www.shalanicely.com/misc/aha-moments-magazine-encouraging-us-little-ocd/ How do you respond when people say, "I am SO OCD?"
Shala reports that she always aims to never shame anyone. For this reason, she talked about polite and non-shaming ways to educate others on what OCD and how painful and debilitating it can be.How does it feel when you hear someone say "I am so OCD"?
"First, frustration", but then desire to educate others about the severity of OCD and other mental health disorders.Are people with OCD, "SO OCD?"
In today's society, being "SO OCD" is generalized to describe someone who is meticulous and likes symmetry and neatness. This is not typical for someone with OCD. Someone who has severe OCD might be entirely ok with a dirty bedroom and not need symmetry or cleanliness at all. It is important that we educate people about the specific sub-types of OCD so that people better understand the complexities and variety of OCD symptoms. Go to Iocdf.org for more informationHow can we manage the shame and guilt that comes with having OCD or another mental health disorder?
Brene Brown has written some AWESOME literature and has done amazing research about shame and guilt. Because Shame and Guilt are so common amongst those with OCD, Anxiety, Eating Disorders and Body- Focused Repetitive Disorders, we both strongly encourage listeners to read any of her books. Kimberley also discussed Brene's explanation of how to identify if you can trust someone. Check out the link below to watch. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ewngFnXcqaoShala's FAVORITE mindfulness tool:

Dan Harris' 10% Happier book and App.
https://www.amazon.com/10-Happier-Self-Help-Actually-Works/dp/0062265431/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1500508777&sr=8-1&keywords=10%25+happierHow to find out more about Shala Nicely
Shalanicely.com Beyondthedoubt.com/keywords You can also watch the unedited version of this podcast below https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_4zPJTCORqg&t=8sTranscript
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| 0:00.0 | Well, welcome. This is Your Anxiety Toolkit podcast. Today I am lucky to have our CBT rock star, Shala, nicely. And today we're |
| 0:25.8 | going to talk about two really important subjects, the first one being managing shame and guilt. |
| 0:31.1 | And then the second is how to deal with the common saying, oh, I'm so OCD about that, or I'm so OCD. |
| 0:41.0 | So I'm going to ask some questions, and Charlo is going to give me her absolute rock star |
| 0:46.4 | expert opinion on those. |
| 0:48.8 | So, Charleau, you recently wrote a super cool article, which I will post in the show notes about |
| 0:56.9 | this idea about being so OCD. |
| 1:00.0 | So do you want to tell us a little bit about what inspired you to write that article? |
| 1:05.1 | Sure. |
| 1:05.6 | And thank you very much, really, for having me on the show. |
| 1:08.2 | I'm honored to be here. |
| 1:10.4 | So, in fact, you were there when I got |
| 1:12.8 | inspired to write this article. It was when you and I were at the TLC Foundation for Body Focus |
| 1:18.8 | Repetitive Behaviors Conference in St. Louis. And my mom had texted me a picture from a major |
| 1:26.6 | women's magazine that had a headline on an article that said |
| 1:32.8 | be a little OCD. And my mom is amazing. She doesn't have OCD, but clearly she knows all about |
| 1:39.9 | mine. But she didn't for years because they didn't, my parents didn't know I had it until I was in |
| 1:45.4 | my 30s, even though I've had it since I was probably five or six. I hit it that time. And, you know, |
| 1:51.1 | since learning about what I went through and how hard it was when you get treatment and how much |
| 1:55.2 | I've suffered, you know, my mom has become a huge advocate for raising awareness about OCD and its |
| 2:00.7 | appropriate treatment and for |
| 2:02.4 | helping people understand the damage that could be done by the misuse of the term OCD, by |
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