I'm supposed to be the initiator I'm supposed to get hard immediately and stay

rock hard the entire time I'm supposed to last the perfect amount of time like

not too short not too long it really is this intensity of feeling like you know every aspect of these

interactions are my responsibility. I have to make sure it's good.

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I think we've all been here before. You're in the moment with your partner, things are starting to get hot and heavy.

I like where this is going. And one of you just is not showing up to the party.

Oh.

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