Hey guys, my name is John Kim. I'm a licensed therapist and life coach putting

self betterment into a shot class because let's face it who's got that much time

these days. I come unpolished, unrehearsed, on purpose.

If you're looking for more of a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place.

Back in the day, my definition of beauty was two dimensional and predictable, mostly

aesthetics. Today my definition of beauty is multidimensional and has layers.

Now, I used to think the greatest compliment you could give someone

was that they hold up, meaning that they are who they say they are, you know, there's no posturing or falseness and their

character lines up with their words and I always thought like that would be the greatest compliment for me is if you

know someone said that you know John you hold up you know and I'm saying you know a lot, which I need to stop doing.

Anyway, but today I think the greatest compliment is

if someone thinks you're a beautiful person.

And so I thought about this for a while and I was thinking, well, what is my definition

of a beautiful person?

I think beauty starts with kindness and then right after kindness compassion. I don't think that being a dick is beautiful and I don't

think that we're born dicks right? No one's born an asshole. Being a dick or unkind is actually usually a defense coming

from some kind of hurt, coming from not having tools coming from one story upbringing you know so many factors right so even like someone being a dick or unkind isn't black and

white and there's a story behind that no one's born an asshole we're born

with a clean slate. We have little pure hearts and as we grow up and

experienced life and we start getting hurt and all the pain that comes with the life in general, all the turbulence,

we start trying to protect ourselves, We start to become reactive. We start coping in

unhealthy waves. Waves. Well, waves too. We start we start coping in unhealthy ways and in waves and then being a dick slowly becomes the knee

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