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Today we are tackling one of the biggest issues we could possibly tackle. is the big whale where this is the big leagues this is the big leagues it's one of the big whale right what's the whale mowy dick yeah I mean mowy dick is about a whale? Moebdick? Yeah, I mean, Moebdick is about a whale.

Yeah.

But I don't think big whale comes from Moebdick per se.

Oh, really?

I don't know.

I've never read Moby Dick, be totally honest have you call me a

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