a lot of women think like, oh, well, I'm sparing his feelings and I'm making him feel like he did a good job and like, I'm not saying anything. That's great.

But actually there are a lot of men who are saying like, no, like I need that feedback. I want to hear from you. I want this to feel like a two-way process and it feels lazy to me that you're not saying anything at all. Hello and

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wide when you use code Pillow Talks at cozyEarth.com. Today we are talking about a topic that if I am totally honest made me a little bit

nervous when we first decided to do it. Oh yeah we're talking about being lazy in bed. So let me say like I do not consider

myself a lazy lover I actually hate using the word lover but I feel like the

illiteration is not I don't know it just do you like the word lover I don't

think you do not particularly not particularly but I think that that's a you know

there are a lot of people that do like to use the word

lover like oh they're my lover like it's a way to get around not having to label it

anything else other than like we're having sex or like you know we have some kind of

relationship but it's not a boyfriend it's not a girlfriend it's not a

fiance it's not a whatever you want to call it okay so I don't consider myself a

lazy lover.

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