Episode 140: "Why Are You Telling Me This?" Complications In Communicating With Teens

Feeding The Mouth That Bites You: Parenting Teens Into Adulthood

Kenneth Wilgus, Cynthia Yanof

Education, Christianity, Parenting, How To, Kids & Family, Religion & Spirituality

4.8 • 801 Ratings

🗓️ 25 April 2023

⏱️ 17 minutes

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Summary

Having a relationship where your teenager shares everything with their parents is a good thing... right? Today we talk about complications in the idealistic expectation that parents want teenagers who tell them everything that is going on in their lives. Sometimes there's reason to actually ask a teenager, "... why are you telling me this?" After all, did you tell your parents everything you did when you were a teenager? Dr. Ken even admits a secret he never told his parents! Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0	You are listening to Feeding the Mouth That Bites You with Ashley Parrish and Jessica Pfeiffer.
0:05.6	A weekly podcast guide on parenting teens and launching them into the world.
0:10.0	As always, we are joined by psychologist and author, Dr. Ken Wilgus.
0:14.7	Hey, everyone and welcome back.
0:17.0	Why are you telling me this?
0:19.4	Today we'll be discussing complications and communication.
0:23.6	This is going to be a fun topic. I think Dr. Ken. You guys are not on board with this.
0:29.6	No, I just think that this is going to be interesting because we tell parents all the time that part of the reason why you want to follow kind of the feeding the mouth
0:39.9	way of things is because you want to open the doors of communication with your teenager.
0:45.1	That's true.
0:45.9	Right.
0:45.9	So we want to open the doors by saying, hey, hands off.
0:50.1	This isn't my area of control.
0:51.6	You get to decide what you're going to do here.
0:53.2	But the return is that you can have conversation about it because your kid knows you're not going to try and control it.
0:58.1	Now you're telling me, actually, they can overshare.
1:01.7	There's such a thing as over communicating. Yes, there is.
1:06.1	Okay, so explain this to me.
1:07.9	Well, there's several examples of it. The one that comes up a lot is just when
1:13.8	when you have such a good relationship with a teenager that she, sometimes he, but you know,
1:19.3	is just just tells you everything that's going on, including what's going on with her,
1:24.6	what's going on with her friends, what she's heard, all this kind of
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