Episode 139: Trash Talk, Verbal Sparring and Teenagers

Feeding The Mouth That Bites You: Parenting Teens Into Adulthood

Kenneth Wilgus, Cynthia Yanof

Education, Christianity, Parenting, How To, Kids & Family, Religion & Spirituality

4.8 • 801 Ratings

🗓️ 18 April 2023

⏱️ 19 minutes

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Summary

Jessica and Ashley revive an axiom they learned in a Bible study, "our words should build, bless and benefit." How could any Christian parent disagree with these goals for our children? Well... Dr. Ken has some concerns! Today we consider the purpose of words that may seem critical. Verbal sparring can be an advanced form of "rough-housing" which, research indicates, can be helpful for children and teenagers. We also discuss the necessity of connection in shared humor and put-downs. How can parents help teens navigate these choppy social waters? Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0	You are listening to Feeding the Mouth That Bites You with Ashley Parrish and Jessica Pfeiffer.
0:05.6	A weekly podcast guide on parenting teens and launching them into the world.
0:10.0	As always, we are joined by psychologist and author, Dr. Ken Wilgus.
0:14.7	Hey, everyone, and welcome back on today's episode.
0:17.8	We'll be discussing trash talk verbal sparring and teenagers.
0:23.4	Ashley, you and I were talking a few weeks ago about how in a Bible study long ago,
0:29.3	we learned that our words should build bless and benefit.
0:33.0	And I have said that again, they should what?
0:35.0	They should build bless and benefit.
0:38.9	And I have repeated that mantra a million times to my kids, which now I think Dr. Ken is going to say, that's stupid.
0:47.1	That wouldn't, that would not build bless or benefit. So I should keep that to myself. Yeah,
0:53.2	that's what we learned and we took it to heart and we've
0:55.3	raised our kids that way. And if we just had a dime for every time we've said that, I'm sure we'd be
1:01.4	very rich. But obviously that's good. I mean, who's going to say that's terrible? But I do, I do have
1:08.0	concerns. Yes. Yes. I do believe it or not.
1:16.7	So like as a little kids, you know, we always taught our kids like your words matter, what you say matters.
1:20.4	Everything that comes out of your mouth should honor the Lord and build bless and benefit.
1:26.5	And so I wouldn't allow them to say things like shut up or names, of course.
1:31.7	And I didn't even, y'all, I didn't even let them say the word fart because I can.
1:35.0	Now we have to put explicit on this episode.
1:35.6	I know.
1:43.8	But as they become teenagers, you know, like they have teenager friends and they start talking differently. And on the inside,
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