You are listening to Weight Loss Made Real, and this is episode 14. You need to stop hating yourself in order to lose your extra weight.

We're going to talk about a big mistake that lots of women make when they're trying to change

their eating, and then stay tuned because I want to tell you all about the Freedom Group and how you might join it and get coaching directly from me.

So let's get started. What you weigh today, how you eat, whether you binge today, your bad habits, all of those things are all results that you created. But when we look at ourselves and we look at

what we've created, we immediately go to judging ourselves. You judge, you hate yourself. Some of the ways this might show up for

you are you can't stand looking in the mirror. You say awful things to yourself that you would never say to anyone else. You hate that

number on the scale. You might call yourself some ugly names and maybe you won't put any

money into nice looking outfits that

flatter your body right now. Why did we do this? Because you think you don't

deserve anything nice now, not yet. You think a number defines what kind of person you are.

And so you don't want to treat yourself well until you reach another number

or until you stop binging or until you get your life more together.

Well this is a little bit like beating up a puppy because it's not housebroken yet or punishing a child who can't read yet. You would never do those things, but you do even

worse to yourself just for being where you are right now.

You think if you don't excel right now,

you need to beat yourself to get where you want to go.

But the beating makes you feel less than, demoralized, even more unworthy, with no hope of changing.

And that feels so bad that you escape that feeling by eating way more than you need way more often.

So what's the answer?

The answer is making peace with your weight, your body, and your thoughts right now.

I know it sounds and feels counterintuitive, but hating yourself makes you pull away and stop.

And love lets you take care and keep on going.

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