Hey guys, my name is John Kim. I'm a licensed therapist and life coach putting

self-betterment into a shot class because let's face it who's got that much time

these days. I come unpolished, unrehearsed, on purpose.

If you're looking for more of a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place.

To hold space, you've heard this term before the idea of holding space most likely from a friend who has recently tried therapy for the first time and she's now bringing all that

cycle babble into her everyday life and that includes all the conversations

she's having with you like cross fitters saying crush in every sentence after they drank from the Kool-Aid.

I was one of them.

I'm going to crush this burger.

You crush that crossword puzzle.

I'm going to crush this nap.

Okay, you get it. Well, although you've made, may have

overheard this term, it doesn't make it any less important. It's actually, I believe, one of the most important life skills to have.

So first let's talk about what it means to actually hold space.

And I'll simplify, as I do, bring it to street level, it means to not make it about you.

And at the end of the day, that's what it means.

It means to make it about someone else.

Now, most people cannot do this or they decide not to or

they're not used to doing it and that's why they actually can't. It's like a

muscle that you have to exercise because we're wired to want to take to seek from others.

We don't want to accept someone's opinions and world views, especially if they don't match ours, and especially if we care about them, right?

Like the more that we care about someone, the more that we want them to match our blueprints

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