Hello and welcome back to the Self Healer Soundboard. Last week we talked about letting go in our relationships.

This week we're going to talk about the process of reconnecting, how to know when you're ready.

Specifically last week we talked about letting go of relationships that no longer serve you where you are in the present moment.

We listened to your responses and your feedback as we always do. There was one response on social media that stuck out to me particularly.

I'm going to read it here. It's that I really appreciate your openness about your family is Nicole and Jenna.

I'm wondering at what point did you know you were ready to start speaking to them again. It's hard to know I find.

This really resonated deeply with me and with us because as we've been through our journeys and you've heard our sharing, we've both gone through long periods where we haven't spoken to our families individually and different timelines.

And we also both have reengaged in connection with our families.

And while we've both done that, I also just want to highlight that that also is unique. It's not always the goal for someone to reconnect.

So it seems like a natural exploration to continue this conversation from last week for a lot of you realizing, okay, how do I let go of relationships that no longer serve me and over time as we grow and heal as we become more in touch with ourselves.

There are certain ones that may still be an alignment that we may want to connect with. So how do we actually go about doing that.

So speaking of uniqueness, I think the first important thing to note here is that just as much as our journey into the disconnection or into letting go coming to the awareness that we need whatever distance it is within our relationships, the journey back to reconnection is very unique and individual.

We might take longer time away than someone else and our journey back might look different than someone else. So while you and I, of course, will share when we knew when it was time for us to reconnect in our own family relationships that doesn't mean it apply to everyone, something we always touch upon.

So when we're speaking about the work is how important it is to cultivate that interconnection to you to the timeline that's right for you. Of course, we can explore factors as we will throughout this episode, but I really want to hammer home that this is a very individual journey.

Some listeners might not even have taken full time away in their relationships or fully let go, but there might be different degrees of distance that again, to speak to your point, we're reconsidering or we're looking or exploring the possibility of reconnection around.

And sometimes we put a lot of weight on time while you, you know, you've moved on or you've let go or taken the steps that have worked to release a relationship that was toxic or chaotic and you're moving on months have gone on, maybe years have gone on time has happened.

Time without any sort of action or any sort of inner work or reflection or a cultivation of this self trust and cultivation of consciousness really is just that it's time time doesn't necessarily heal all it's the actions taken within that time that allow for healing and transformation.

So it's also really important to not be looking at these relationships now like well, you know, I marked two calendars on the months of no speaking. So now it's time to reconnect again time isn't a good basis.

It's the inner work and the inner self trust that we cultivate that really gives us the insight of are we ready to reconnect and do we even want to reconnect does it serve us because for many of us it may not you may not go back to that relationship.

And that's also perfectly okay reconnection is not always the goal.

I love that and because time it's more a matter of what has happened during the time just to reiterate what you're saying. That's an important piece of it.

We always talk about doing the work taking the action so calendar days going by for some of us if nothing changes on our end are just calendar days going by we're still in the same place we still might need that continued disconnection.

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