Episode 114: Light on the Other Side of Divorce: Discovering the New You, with Dr. Elizabeth Cohen
The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Kate Anthony
4.4 • 574 Ratings
🗓️ 15 April 2021
⏱️ 42 minutes
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Summary
Dr. Elizabeth Cohen is CEO and Founder of the online divorce course and membership, Afterglow: the Light on The Other Side of Divorce. She is also the author of the book, "Light on the Other Side of Divorce: Discovering the New You," which is a phenomenal book about how to grow and thrive after divorce.
She joins me this week to discuss aspects of her book, including the need for processing your emotions. Because, love, you need to allow yourself to feel. We also talk about how divorce is trauma. As Dr. Cohen so eloquently stated, "We hold trauma in our body and divorce is a trauma. We need to allow the movement of this energy, this fight response through us. We need to in order to be a better parent, to be a better partner, to whoever we work with, to be a better citizen in this world."
Show Highlights
- Challenging assumptions about divorce, because even in 2021, there is still a stigma about it. (6:08)
- You have every reason to feel ALL of your feelings. (16:18)
- So, what are some ways you can express anger? Dr. Cohen shares some ideas. (17:26)
- Divorce, trauma, and how it affects your entire body. (22:41)
- How self-doubt, inner-critic, and dissociation all make it hard to decide whether you should stay or you should go. (27:53)
- There's no wrong way to go through this process. If you're working with someone and they're telling you; there's a right way and a wrong way, then they're not your person. (29:43)
- Dr. Cohen shares about her relationship pattern excavator. (31:20)
- Working through the grief and loss of your marriage is a process. "It's unpeeling and dealing with the loss over time." (36:00)
Learn More About Dr. Cohen:
Dr. Cohen is a clinical psychologist. She is the CEO and founder of the online divorce course and membership Afterglow: The Light at the Other Side of Divorce and the CEO of the Center for CBT in NYC. Dr. Cohen's online course teaches women how to heal, grow and thrive after divorce no matter how difficult the process has been. Dr. Cohen offers a monthly membership program to provide 1:1 coaching, expert support from divorce professionals, and an engaged community of like-minded people. Dr. Cohen received her Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Boston University. She was the recipient of the prestigious American Psychological Foundation Research Award for her research on the emotional effects of 9/11. She has been featured on the Tamron Hall Show, the Wall Street Journal, NBC News, Women's Health, Huff Post, Thrive Global, Daily Beast, and Good Housekeeping. Dr. Cohen is a weekly contributor to Psychology Today with her "Divorce Course" column. Dr. Cohen hosts the Divorce Doctor podcast where she interviews people about their divorce experiences. Dr. Cohen's book based on her Afterglow program entitled, Light at The Other Side of Divorce: Discovering the New You will be published in April 2021.
Resources & Links:
Dr. Cohen's book
Dr. Cohen's website
Dr. Cohen on Facebook
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go. |
| 0:17.7 | I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate |
| 0:22.8 | some of the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. |
| 0:28.5 | I've been to hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side |
| 0:34.2 | of this process with your sanity and your heart intact. |
| 0:45.3 | Hey, everyone. Welcome back to another episode of the Divorce Survival Guide podcast. How are you guys doing? |
| 0:58.8 | Happy spring. Spring has sprung. I don't know about you guys, but here at L.A., the weather is looking up and it's looking beautiful. I hope you guys |
| 1:05.6 | are getting some sunshine wherever you are, and the weather's starting to warm up. I know it's, I know it's not really fair for me |
| 1:12.4 | to say that in L.A. things are getting warmer. You won't want to punch me in the face right now, |
| 1:17.4 | don't you. But no, it's really pretty. So anyway, before we get to my amazing guest this week, |
| 1:24.6 | I just want to make sure y'all are following me on Instagram, trying to do some more |
| 1:32.3 | Instagram lives and IGTVs and just talk a little bit more to you live and in person. So make |
| 1:41.0 | sure you head over to Instagram and follow me there. I am at the Divorce Survival Guide. |
| 1:47.8 | And if you are a woman and you're not in my Facebook group, you need to get in there. |
| 1:55.3 | I haven't sort of plugged my Facebook group in a while, but I just want to say that my Facebook |
| 2:00.2 | group is different from any other divorce Facebook group out there., but I just want to say that my Facebook group is different |
| 2:00.9 | from any other divorced Facebook group out there. And I'm not just saying that because I think so, |
| 2:06.8 | but it's what they tell me. And I have been in a few of them when I was starting out my group, |
| 2:12.0 | and I was like, whoa, this is some scary shit. I monitor the shit out of my Facebook group. I do not allow people |
| 2:19.6 | to just vent and bash and it is a place for learning and growth. So if you are interested |
| 2:25.1 | in learning and growth and if you are interested in being challenged and stretching beyond |
| 2:30.3 | where you're at right now, then I invite you to join my Facebook group. It's for women only. |
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