Episode 102: Breaking Free of Trauma Bonds with Gwynn Raimondi

The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

Kate Anthony

Education, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Relationships

4.4 • 574 Ratings

🗓️ 21 January 2021

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

The topic of trauma bonds is one of the biggest conversations that circulate within my Facebook group and also with clients. In fact, it is one of the biggest obstacles women tackle as they extricate themselves from a toxic relationship. So this week, I am bringing back my friend Gwynn Raimondi to talk all about trauma bonds. Gwynn is a writer, Trauma Support Practitioner, Relational Systems Explorer, and the creator of the Trauma-Informed Embodiment™ modality.

The typical advice given to those breaking free from toxic relationships is to go no contact. Unfortunately, if you are a parent, going no contact isn't an option. You don't have the luxury of doing that when you share children with the person you have a trauma bond with. In this episode, Gwynn helps us understand what a trauma bond is and how you can set healthy boundaries in order to break free.

Show Highlights

What are trauma bonds and how do we recognize them? Plus, the two definitions of trauma bonds. (8:12)
How trauma bonds are formed within long-term abusive partnerships. (9:07)
The reason you can't heal from trauma bonds on your own and why you don't go to therapy with an abuser. (13:52)
How to break free from a trauma bond. (21:40)
The basics of what a healthy relationship should look like. (31:24)

Learn More About Gwynn:

Gwynn is a writer, Trauma Support Practitioner, Relational Systems Explorer and the creator of the Trauma Informed Embodiment™ modality. She specializes in complex (childhood, relational, & attachment based) traumas, grief, embodiment, and their intersections. She has written extensively over the last several years about many different types of trauma and the ways they impact our relationships. She offers online groups and programs periodically throughout the year, as well as works with individual clients via Zoom.

Resources & Links:
Gwynn on Instagram
Gwynn on Facebook
Gwynn's newsletter
Gwynn's Current Workshops and Offerings
Rhian Lockard on Divorce Survival Guide
Big Little Lies
FAYR App
The Ultimate Divorce Survival Guide
Should I Stay or Should I Go Facebook Group

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go.
0:17.7	I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate some of
0:23.3	the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. I've been to
0:29.1	hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side of this process
0:35.1	with your sanity and your heart intact.
0:43.8	Hey, hey everyone. Welcome back to another episode of the Divorce Survival Guide podcast.
0:51.2	How's everyone doing? It is a happy week in my world.
0:59.5	We've got the inauguration or by the time you hear this, it will have happened.
1:05.1	God help us, I hope it went off without a hitch.
1:08.7	And then next week, you guys, it's my birthday. And I'm like, I'm a fan of
1:14.2	my birthday. I got to tell you, I'm always the one who's like, you know, I throw my own parties.
1:21.9	And this year was supposed to be like a really, really big deal. We were going to have a big ass party because
1:30.8	you guys, I'm turning 50. That's right. We had this whole plan for this big party at my friend
1:37.1	Lisa's house. We were going to, it was going to be a DJ and dancing and it was going to be
1:42.0	epic. And here we are. Womp, womp. We're having my birthday
1:49.7	on Zoom. I don't even know. But here's what I do. Here's the deal, guys. Here's what I do.
1:59.2	I texted three of my best friends and I was like, hey, y'all need to
2:05.1	throw me a Zoom party, figure it out. And they were like, on it. And here's the thing, guys,
2:13.4	you need to have people in your life. Everyone needs people in their lives that you can call or text and be like, hey, you need to
2:22.5	throw me a party.
2:23.7	And they're like, fuck yeah, got it.
2:27.4	Those are the people that you need in your life.
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