Good morning and welcome to the Increase Your Impact Podcast. I'm Justin Sua, episode 1,990. This episode is for those of you who might find yourself in a situation where you are receiving instruction or coaching from someone who is not very tactful in the way that they give you this instruction. Maybe they yell,

maybe they're sarcastic, maybe it just doesn't come out the right way. But you know that the message

they're saying is good. It's productive. It's helpful. However, you can't get over how it's delivered.

Now, this message isn't for them, this message is for you.

I recently heard an analogy that I love that relates to this.

There's a person who said, imagine yourself somebody offering you a million dollars.

Would you accept the million dollars if it was given to you in $10 bills? Chances

are you say yes. And then the next question is, would you accept the million dollars if they

don't give it to you now, but they give it to you in two months? And chances are you'd say yes.

How about if the million dollars was given to you, but it was all in $1 bills, but you had to drive

a hundred miles to go get it.

Would you still receive that $1 million?

And the answer is probably yes.

And so the lesson behind all of this is that it all comes down to your willingness to receive the

million. You're going to take the million in any way it's given to you. And so the same needs to hold

true for the messages that you receive. Take the message, not the method. However it's delivered,

you need to find some way to pull out the message because sometimes the person is inskilled

and given it to you. Sometimes they're overly emotional. Sometimes they have their biases.

But because we are so mad about the method, we miss the message. And so this is time to take

ownership rather than point the finger, use the thumbs and point them at yourself and to say,

okay, how can I pull out the message, even though I can't stand the method? Easier said than done.

It's very contextual, but there may be some of you out

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