Good morning and welcome to the increase your impact podcast. I'm Justin Sua episode

1,862. Today we are talking about the cues that you give yourself to perform at your

best. What do I mean by that? A lot of times we fill our personal cues or mental cues.

We begin our sentences with a word don't. Don't mess up. Don't embarrass yourself. Don't

walk the person if you're a pitcher. Don't make an air. Don't look like a fool. Don't fill

in the blank. Because we want to avoid it. Don't be frustrated. Don't get mad. Now it's

really interesting about that. It's, it activates something called ironic processes, which is

I want you to try this. Think about, if I were to tell you to think about an elephant,

any elephant, just envision an elephant, hold that image of the elephant in your mind. And

now what if I were to tell you, okay, don't think about the elephant. Okay, that elephant

that you just thought about, don't think about it. Don't think about the ears and the

tusk and the big body. Don't think about it. Don't think about it. What's going to happen?

Obviously, you think about it. The mind sees in images. And so when you tell yourself

not to do something, your brain doesn't register and doesn't understand that we're don't.

So all it's going to see is the thing that you're telling yourself not to do. So instead

of telling yourself what not to do, tell yourself what you need to do. Instead of telling

yourself what not to focus on, tell yourself what you should be focusing on. What your next

move should be. Your attention, it will listen to you. But it won't listen to you if you

say the word don't before the sentence. So imagine that your brain is like a flashlight

and just point your brain, point your attention to where you want it to go. Not where you don't

want it to go. Try that out. See how it feels for those of you who are journaling prompt

for the day is this, what are common don't phrases you say to yourself and what is, what

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