Good morning and welcome to the Increasing Impact Podcast. I'm Justin Sua episode 1,825.

I was recently reminded of a concept called the Spotlight Effect.

I came across it on Sahil Bloom's Twitter account and he says that the spotlight effect

says that we overestimate the degree to which other people are noticing

or observing our actions.

And two mistakes that he talks about is number one, worrying about what other people think about us

and number two, believing that other people think about us in the first place.

He goes on to say that when we realize this harsh truth that most people don't really care about us

or don't really care about you or don't really care about me, that it's actually liberating.

It's liberating to realize that, okay, I don't have to worry about what people think about you about me

and they're probably not thinking about me in a first place.

It's liberating because we can stop worrying about what others think

and we can just be ourselves and live according to our own values and what matters to us.

And so my invitation to you is to consider those two things.

Are you getting tangled up in any of those two mistakes?

Number one, are you worrying about what other people think about you?

And number two, are you believing too much that other people are actually thinking about you?

That you are actually taking up cognitive real estate and other people's minds.

The reality is, is probably a lot less, a lot less than you think it is.

My question to you is, what can you do to minimize the spotlight effect?

It's human, we all go through it, but what can you do to catch yourself

when you're experiencing, falling when you're succumbing to these two mistakes

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