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Am I the A-Hull for telling my dad that I owe him nothing and I don't care about him? Nope. Why he only birthed you and raised you. Yeah, he only birded you from his seed. Exactly. From his baby sack. Yeah. The gist is this. I lost my mom to a long-term health issue when I was 10. The cost of the treatment drained my parents' finances, and it was just my dad and me after my mom died. No extended family. Dad started

dating when I was 12 when he met Jane. Jane. After a few months, he told me her son had a form of

brain cancer and was very sick. Damn, this guy can't get a break.

Seriously, God.

And that they were getting married and he would be helping take care of her son.

We went from two in a tiny two bedroom house to four in a tiny two bedroom house and me sharing

a room with a terminally ill toddler.

I didn't even know.

Oh, God. This is going into a bad place, maybe. I don't know. We'll see. We have to make so many changes. No more takeout, which was once a month treat before that. I had to stop my only extracurricular activity. I thought she was going to say I had to stop my only fans. God. No friends over because noise bothered him. No space

that was mine. No extra money for celebrating birthdays and Christmas. When I was 15,

dad and I got into a huge argument because I was never home and was always saying no to helping

Jane take care of her son. When I told him how much I hated the situation, he looked me in the eye and told me to grow up.

I mean, I think like, yeah, to an extent, like it's to an extent.

You're like 15 and your life has drastically changed.

Yeah.

And also like, I feel like, you know, the take out, whatever, you can ditch that, maybe even the presence. But you a community. If like friends and if like she's not able to hang out with her friends. Like that's not really hurt. Like it's, that's going to be hard for her to help where she can. But like at the end of the day, like you can't just completely suck her life away. Like still still give her at least the ability to go outside the home yeah just because it's

going to be i mean when you don't have a support network how can you give you know exactly because you

don't have enough for yourself he also told me that i was old enough to understand that life wasn't

always easy or fun and that a rougher life can build character oh no which is not to build character

i mean i guess that's true in In a way it is, yeah.

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