You're listening to episode 95 of the baggage reclaim sessions.

I'm your host Natalie Lou, the writer of baggage reclaim.com, where I help people to

increase their emotional availability so that they can move on

from the past, feel confident and happier within, and show up for the relationships and

opportunities that reflect their best selves.

Hello there, do you know what I want to talk about today?

Ambiguity, because it gets on my nerves and I see how much pain and destruction it

can cause in people's lives. If we could be that much clearer ourselves, believe me when I say that we will not

find ourselves in ambiguous situations that just drag on and on and on. On the blog this week I talked about how we at some point

really have to draw our line with somebody who has been pretty ambiguous with us and is

yeah kind of toying with us you know playing with us you know playing with our affections and I talked about how I've been watching

season three of the British crime drama broadchurch which anybody who's watched the series will know first, the first season,

amazing, second season, third season, back on form.

Unfortunately, it was also the final season. Anyway, there's a separated couple.

I'm not going to give away much about the show and I won't be by telling you guys this who they still hang out, know they have children together and all the

rest but also he's still crazy about her and one day she's experiencing an

issue so she basically meets up with him for a chat and she

basically references the fact that oh that's why she calls him up and hangs out

with him because you know he's always been really good, you know, listening to her and all the rest.

And he basically says to her that she treats him like a dog, you know, whistle and he comes running and that he needs her not to do that.

And what he really did there is something that all of us eventually find ourselves doing when we have been in an ambiguous

situation for a while. We have to be clear and we become clear at that point

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