Hi peeps, Help Me Be Me is underfunded and needs your help. If you enjoy listening to this or it helps you at all,

please visit Help Me Be Me.com and click donate or visit me on Patreon. Thanks. Hi friends it's Sarah May. So this is a power-up turned long form because I had tools. So I decided to extend it. So this is really about something I have

been experiencing lately, which is kind of this great energy and ability that comes from doing things

that are really challenging and not fun or comfortable for you. And I guess because I see in a lot of people who usually are just comfortable,

they become slaves to habit, and then they grow this like intense

paralysis, like a fear or perceived lack of their own ability when they start to try and venture outside of their routine.

Like suddenly they feel like they can't do anything more than what they've done.

And in many ways that's kind of like the danger of comfort.

And so this is kind of about how to initiate a changeable and flexible sense of self.

And it's written in part because when you are in a state of continual growth, you can better stay connected to the fact that nothing in life is really such a big deal. Like nothing can take you out or make you suffer and better yet you can do anything and everything you want

because it's everything's possible. It's like why not? Nothing really holds you back.

And you aren't trapped by kind of like that sense of learned helplessness that's kind of of created by a routine and that is because you learn from your own

behavior you can't do anything because if you are continually doing the same thing and then you don't try things, you tend to

grow the sense of self like, I can't do that, I can't do anything outside of this thing.

And if you don't try things, or push yourself to fail at things you feel like

you really are unable to be vulnerable like you stop trying all together. And when you make a habit of

pushing yourself to try things that are really hard, you stay connected to kind of like this broader definition of self that is you in this

entire lifetime because it's really easy to forget when you were a kid and you

didn't care when you tried a kid and you didn't care, when you tried and fell and tried again and fell again and

try it again and then didn't fall. Because that's when your brain didn't have as loud of a voice.

I want to help you grow that self a little bit more.

So with that, there are three parts, the what, the and the how the tools and the what and the

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