Ep. 82 - How to stop the "what ifs"
How to Get Over Your Ex
Dorothy AB Johnson
4.7 • 577 Ratings
🗓️ 18 January 2021
⏱️ 15 minutes
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Summary
After a breakup many of my bravehearts have brains that consume them with the "what ifs". "What if I would have acted/shown up differently?" "What if I would have loved him differently?" They could go on for hours asking these questions and forming alternative realities in their head.
The problem is, when you're busy asking the wrong questions you never solve for the right questions that actually move you closer to getting over your ex. Today, learn how to let go of the questions that keep you stuck and start asking yourself the questions that actually help you get over your ex for good.
What to expect:
- Learn what why you're asking the "what ifs"
- Understand the right questions to ask to get over your ex
- Become someone who's more consumed with finding solutions vs spending all day in their head thinking about their ex and the "what ifs"
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | You are listening to How to Get Over Your Ex, episode number 82. |
| 0:14.3 | Welcome to How to Get Over Your Ex, a podcast on getting over your ex without it just taking time. |
| 0:20.5 | I'm your host, breakup coach Dorothy. |
| 0:22.6 | Let's turn your pain into power and your heartbreak into happy. |
| 0:29.1 | Hello, happy Monday, my brave hearts. |
| 0:32.9 | So much has happened this weekend, you guys. |
| 0:36.3 | I bought a car after not having one since 2016 or 17. I wasn't |
| 0:42.0 | planning on it, woke up on Saturday morning, and that's what happened. But I haven't had one for a |
| 0:50.3 | really long time because I lived in cities where you didn't really need one and my car |
| 0:54.6 | would just like collect parking tickets and leaves so I eventually just gave it to my brother |
| 0:59.9 | I also this weekend moved into a condo on the beach which is super fun I'm going to try it out |
| 1:06.3 | before I find a more permanent situation and looking at a couple different spots. |
| 1:12.4 | I figured I'd try this out. |
| 1:14.2 | So far, I mean, I'm only a day in, but I'm loving it. |
| 1:19.1 | I feel like I just came out of a really like deep fog in my life and I just feel so lit up. |
| 1:26.4 | You guys, I haven't lived on my own for a hot minute and it feels |
| 1:30.5 | so good um and I know some of you want to slap me in the face because you've been living alone |
| 1:37.7 | all of quarantine so I apologize for that but for me I was living with my partner throughout quarantine and then I moved in with |
| 1:47.6 | my cousin and her husband and their child which was super fun and amazing and I loved that during the |
| 1:53.4 | holidays and now I'm in my space oh my gosh and it just feels like so much release. |
| 2:05.1 | I've overcome a lot in the last three to four months and so many deep feelings, |
| 2:08.2 | releasing of old habits and patterns and a lot of beliefs. |
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