I'm Jodie Moore at Bold New Mom. This is episode number 81. It's not about you.

This is Bold New Mom, a podcast for women and some of my favorite men on the planet,

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Hey everybody, welcome to the podcast. Thank you so much for tuning in today.

I have a great episode in store for you today. I'm really excited to teach you about this thought

that I have to remind my brain of all the time, which is it's not about you.

Let me tell you why I think this is such an empowering and important thought that I have to remind myself of all the time.

The natural man within me or natural woman, if you will, thinks that it is all about me.

It thinks everything is about me. My natural brain, my primitive brain, is like a child in many ways.

Some people will call this part of us the ego.

This part of us takes in all stimulus around us and filters it with regards to how it will affect us.

So it asks questions about everything happening around us like, will this help me?

Will this hinder me? Will it hurt me? Will it expand me? Will it hold me back?

It's seeking to further our own interest. It is the self-interested part of us that thinks that everything that happens should be relevant to how it affects us.

It wants to know if things happening outside me will make me feel more important, more valuable, more loved, or help me to have more of the things I want in my life, or will it make me feel less important?

Or have less, or be less?

But of course this is mostly unnecessary, right?

Because number one, my value is never in question.

And the things that happen outside of me are not the reason that I am amazing and valuable.

And they are not the reason that you are amazing and valuable.

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