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Welcome to Raising Good Humans. I'm Dr. Aliza and today it's just me with you. I've been

getting so many listener questions, which I love, on my DMs, on At Raising Good Humans podcast.

And I realized it's been a little while since I've answered them. So today I have questions

on tantrums. And if you like this episode, don't hesitate to subscribe,

rate, and if you really feel excited, write a little review. So here's the first question.

Dr. Aliza, I'm new to your podcast, but quickly catching up with old episodes. And I was

wondering if you've addressed behavior modification. I know you've talked a lot about connecting,

and I'm wondering if there's any room in the research for straight-up rewards and punishment.

Okay. I think it's a great question, and I actually addressed it in one of the videos on my

podcast as well. So this must be on the mind of lots of people. My overall point of view about

any support for your child's behavior is grab whatever tools work for you, and just try not to be

too religious about it in the sense that if you decide that no rewards is what you read and what

you heard, but something, you know, giving a little bit of positive reinforcement through a small

reward or attention works for you in certain circumstances go for it. The research is not

about whether or not it works, because in fact, a lot of methods are going to work. If by work,

you mean get your child to be compliant or listen well or stop what they're doing and redirect.

The question is for some people, if you're doing a particular kind of discipline like behavior

modification without some of the other support systems like connecting and being available,

emotionally, and kind of seeing your child and naming their feelings as well, you could end up

with a kid who's very compliant because they want the reward and the praise, but they may not

internalize how their behavior is something they can make good decisions about in the long term.

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