Ep. 73 Surviving on connections with Dr. Carder Stout

Recovering From Reality

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🗓️ 4 June 2020

⏱️ 56 minutes

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Today I am joined by Dr. Carder Stout, one of the therapists I met in treatment ten years ago. Carder worked at Sober Recovery Center, and he was one of my favorite therapists. I just passed nine years of sobriety, and it’s crazy to think I haven’t seen him for a decade. Dr. Carder introduced me to cognitive behavioral therapy, which changed my life. He has also written a book called Lost in Ghost Town, where he details his own struggle with addiction, finding supportive community, and dealing with his childhood trauma. In this episode, we talk about finding community in recovery, breaking generational trauma, our parenting styles and how we can move from shame and guilt to self-compassion.

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0:00.0	The following podcast is a deer media production.
0:07.5	Hey, this is Alexis Haines and welcome to Recovering from Reality,
0:11.6	where I illuminate the messy and magical path of coming home to yourself.
0:16.1	Whether you're on the road to recovery, seeking self-care techniques for surviving the
0:20.5	capitalist machine, or just need a moment to remember that you're not alone in your loneliness,
0:26.2	we're serving up the ultimate truth. Your challenges don't define you, how you deal with them does.
0:33.0	So are you ready to recover from reality?
0:39.5	All of us have a soul and the soul is our most authentic, our most beautiful, our most loving,
0:46.3	our most kind and generous part. It's the part that we come into the world with,
0:51.3	but that over the years of our life and with all the experiences that we have and all of the fears
0:57.7	that we collect and the trauma that we go through, that the soul gets covered up by our ego and
1:04.4	by our humanity. And so trying to find a way back to an understanding that at our essence,
1:13.2	we're divine and we have this beautiful part of us is what I try to teach the people that I work
1:20.1	with now, that at the center and at your core, you are beautiful and you are loving, even though
1:28.8	oftentimes when we're using, of course, we are so far away from that that we forget.
1:38.0	That was a quick clip from this week's episode with Dr. Carter Stout. And before we begin,
1:44.9	I need to take a minute with you guys to talk about racism.
1:48.8	And I don't really care if you're sick of hearing about it at this point. I don't care because
1:54.8	we need to be screaming about this from the rooftops until massive change occurs.
2:03.2	And it's not up to people of color to make this change happen. We don't leave the oppressed
2:11.2	to create their own freedom and their path to freedom. We as white people have to do the fucking heavy lifting.
2:21.0	The time is now. The time was actually at the inception of this country, which has continued
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