For the last few weeks we've been talking about people pleasing, that insidious habit of thinking that we can affect or change how someone else thinks or feels about us by trying to read their mind and do what we think they want us to, which is always a projection of our

own internal landscape. Your thoughts create your feelings and when you're projecting that outward, thinking you know how to please other people to create their feelings for them.

You're always on a wrong path, my tender love.

And you're abandoning your beautiful and perfect self in the pursuit of attempting

to please others.

This week, we'll dive in to talk about how, when you stop people pleasing, people aren't pleased and how you can use

your beautiful brain to not make that a problem. Sound helpful? Ready to learn more?

Keep listening, my love.

It's gonna be a good one.

You're listening to Feminist Wellness,

the only podcast that combines functional medicine, life coaching, and feminism to teach

smart women how to reclaim their power and restore their health.

Here's your host, nurse practitioner, functional medicine expert, herbalist, and life coach, Victoria Albina.

Hello, hello, my love. I hope this finds you doing so well. My darling one, I am going to keep this episode

short and sweet, like me, and I'm saying with the theme of people-pleasing for a third week,

not just because it's a necessary topic

in my work as a feminist codependency and perfectionism coach, but because people-pleasing can play quite the role in the

perpetuation of racism and racist thinking. And it's important to me as a white-passing Latinix to speak up about racism in this country.

And we can apply the following to any and all instances of someone saying something that is racist, as well as misogynist homophobic,

transphobic, classist, xenophobic, ableist, etc.

So as a recap, the truth about people pleasing is that it keeps everyone pleased with you.

Well, everyone other than you.

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