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Hi friends, it's Sarah May. This is episode 69, dudes.

It's Bill and Ted reference.

And it's about how to deal with family who are unwelcoming and mean.

I know the holidays are a few days away, well, one holiday in particular, which can bring up a lot of

uncomfortable feelings, especially if you have a not so

if you are a person that has a new family,

let's say your spouse is family

and they are not very nice to you, and maybe they are not very nice to you and maybe they close off to you or treat

you very poorly. This is for you. So this could be a significant other family or your own family. Like for example, maybe you have a parent who married into a new family and now they're kind of like not acknowledging your existence or maybe you have a significant other and

their family just doesn't accept you or maybe they flat out don't acknowledge you are

in the room so maybe they constantly divide you and your spouse and it causes more fights and maybe

it's someone totally different. Maybe it's a friend that you visit their house all the time and it's

their family. And if it's your family, that's totally common and they can

have dysfunctional ways of relating to you that make you feel like you are not loved, lesser, and, or losing your mind.

So this is for a friend who wrote to me,

hang in there. I know it's not easy,

and it takes a strong person to manage it.

So as usual, there are three parts the what the why and how the tools

Part one the what extended family who treats you deliberately differently keeping you an outsider like you don't exist or intentionally treating

you like crap.

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