My love, this episode goes live on June 4th, 2020, on the heels of the murder of George Floyd,

amidst national protests around systemic racism in the US.

I thought a lot about whether or not to publish an episode this

week and I decided to put this show out there, remedies to people pleasing, because I

hope that these tools will be helpful in the fight to address racism and dismantle white supremacy.

So often white and white passing people go along with racism to people please.

Don't say anything in response to a racist

joke or comment. Don't speak up, don't raise our voices, don't use our privilege to

say that the murder of black folks, the systemic disenfranchisement of

black folks is not okay. That change needs to happen on a systemwide and personal level.

And this does indeed start with our thoughts.

People-pleasing disconnects us from ourselves,

from our wants and needs, from the ways we need to show up for ourselves and thus the world. So of course

it makes sense that if we're constantly trying to please others to uphold the

status quo constantly looking outward.

It becomes even more challenging for us to build deep and powerful compassion

and solidarity with others.

So this is one offering,

and I hope that it resonates.

I want to hear from you about whether it does.

And stay tuned for a more in-depth offering from me about how white and white-passing

folks like myself can concretely move towards being true co-conspirators, accomplices, and not just allies with our black and brown

...