Hey there!

Every month Annie has a call with our Path 365 members and answers their questions.

She tackles a wide range of topics from what to do with big emotions, what kinds of tips and

advice she has for addressing difficult situations, how to deal with cravings, and

so much more. Listen in as she does some real life coaching for our path

members. I've been on my journey and really feel like alcohols has become smaller and smaller in my life, but I still feel like those three to four

drinks in the evening are so important to me. And I feel like I just can't get it right. What do I do?

What I'm noticing in you is a pattern that sometimes notice in people and the amount of and you can correct to me I'm wrong, but the amount of intensity and mental heaviness about doing it right or wrong

in this constant evaluation evaluation causing a lot of distress. And so when we're thinking of emotion rather than behavior, it's not always an emotion like specifically about alcohol. It's how to stop causing so much heaviness inside of you. And sometimes that heaviness doesn't come from. It comes from like we invent places because like it's fascinating. We all are a little bit like actually chemically addicted to our moods. So when we try to break a mood or break a pattern or feel better or give ourselves a break or treat ourselves

of self-compassion, treat ourselves nicely, there is something in us that's like,

no, no, no, like that doesn't feel,

it might feel better, but it doesn't feel routine,

it doesn't feel how things are supposed to feel,

it doesn't feel normal.

And then so we really get fixated on,

okay, I'm going to invent this whole other problem

that then I'm going to try to worry about solving.

So there's this whole other big thing. It's like I was doing it right. Now I'm doing it wrong. I was getting it now I'm not getting it. I must be like and it's like there's this massive other area of discomfort and so if you are feeling like

oh it would be really hard to even go 24 hours right now. It's probably because you're having all of this

discomfort now about this evaluation of yourself. Are you? You said, you know, are you judging

yourself? My trust is eroding. So what you've done in essence is you've like

taken a few data points and you're not making the data points wrong, but you're creating this like entire narrative about, well, if I had those data points, then it must mean this.

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