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Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

EP 652: Five Things I Had To Stop Doing Before I Met My Husband (Hard Truths)

Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

Dr. Morgan Anderson

Relationships, Mental Health, Education, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 1.2K Ratings

🗓️ 18 May 2026

⏱️ 25 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

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Summary

Y'all, I'm celebrating five years with my husband, and I had to come back to the mic and share what I wish someone would have told me when I was still stuck in the dating trenches.

Before I met him, I was a magnet for emotionally unavailable men. I had a disorganized attachment style, low self-worth, and I was exhausted from trying to make plastic-plant relationships grow. So in this episode, I'm giving you the 5 hard truths (plus a bonus) about what you have to stop doing if you actually want to attract a secure, loving, emotionally available partner. These are the things that changed everything for me.

In this episode, I'm walking you through:

  • Why you have to stop auditioning for love — and how authenticity is your real magnet
  • How to stop calling anxiety love (this one changed my dating life)
  • The "plastic plant" pattern keeping you stuck in over-functioning and self-abandonment
  • Why loving someone for their potential is one of the most painful forms of self-betrayal
  • The lie of being "fully healed" and why hiding behind your healing journey is keeping you single
  • BONUS: Why putting marriage on a pedestal is actually costing you the relationship you want

Girl, if you're ready to stop repeating the same painful patterns and finally rewire your brain for secure, healthy love, this is your sign.

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0:00.0

Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Morgan Anderson, psychologist, relationship coach, attachment theory expert, creator of the ESL relationship method, author of Love Magnet and Athletic Wear Connoisseur. My mission is to help you raise yourself worth, have great relationships, and step confidently into the next level of your life.

0:22.3

Each week, two episodes will air featuring expert advice, live coaching, and tips, showing you

0:28.4

exactly how to improve your life and attract a healthy relationship. You deserve to feel empowered,

0:34.8

secure, and love. Buckle up and let's get vulnerable.

0:42.2

Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast.

0:45.0

I'm your host, Dr. Morgan.

0:46.9

We are here in New York in studio,

0:49.4

and I have an extra special episode for you.

0:52.4

I am celebrating five years of being with my husband. We've been

0:57.6

married for not even one, but we've been together for five. And I was thinking about doing something

1:04.4

extra special for you guys. What I would have needed to hear when I was single, I'm going to give you five things to stop doing if you finally want to attract a healthy, loving, securely attached relationship.

1:21.8

Okay. And these are five things that would have been tough for me to hear, but these are definitely things that

1:27.8

will change your dating life if you stop doing them. Are you ready? Okay, I got to be honest with you

1:33.9

for a second. If you have been doing the same thing over and over again in your dating life,

1:40.2

and you're just hoping that, oh, eventually I'll meet the right person.

1:44.9

If I just go on enough dates, it'll happen for me.

1:47.6

I want to throw it out there that that is essentially insanity, right?

1:53.5

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.

1:58.8

No wonder you're frustrated in your dating life. No wonder you feel

2:02.0

like giving up. No wonder you're like, I'm just going to be a dog mom and travel the world and have

2:08.1

lots of friends and just give up on this whole love thing. I get it. The reason you are so exhausted and

2:15.6

burnt out is because you haven't been able to do that inner healing

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