Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Morgan Anderson, psychologist, relationship coach, attachment theory expert, creator of the ESL relationship method, author of Love Magnet and Athletic Wear Connoisseur. My mission is to help you raise yourself worth, have great relationships, and step confidently into the next level of your life.

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Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast.

I'm your host, Dr. Morgan.

Today we are talking about the attachment style that does not get talked about enough.

Disorganized attachment, aka fearful avoidant, when you have both anxious

and avoidant attachment strategies happening at the same time. This is also known as

emotional whiplash. This attachment style is so damaging, so painful. So many people struggle with this. You're

going to love this episode. We're unpacking where does this come from? What does it look like?

And what can we do to change it? And finally become secure. Before we go too far into this episode,

I want you to know this. You absolutely can heal

from disorganized attachment. I am an example of this. I had a disorganized attachment style

for over a decade and I have been able to heal and I now spend my days emotionally regulated in a securely

attached, loving, healthy relationship with my husband.

I have built great relationships.

I have a business that I love.

I have all of the things that I used to see other people had.

And I would ask myself, well, why is it so easy for them? Why do they get to have that? And I don't.

Why do I have so much drama? I remember there was this particular group of girls that I was trying to be

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