Ep. 595 – Igniting the Heart of Compassion: In Remembrance of Ralph De La Rosa
Mindrolling with Raghu Markus
Be Here Now Network
4.7 • 543 Ratings
🗓️ 23 May 2025
⏱️ 73 minutes
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Summary
Honoring the life of a longtime friend of the Be Here Network, Ralph De La Rosa, this special episode explores Ralph’s wisdom on moving through trauma via the heart of compassion.
If you’d like to honor Ralph De La Rosa’s legacy by supporting his family, a GoFundMe has been created to help with the significant and unexpected expenses following his passing - Honoring Ralph's Life: Support their family
In this conversation with Jackie Dobrinska from June 2024, Ralph shares his wisdom on the topics of:
- The nourishment that daily spiritual practice brought to Ralph's healing journey
- Ralph’s difficulties with mental health, bullying, neurodivergence, and gender non-conformity
- How spiritual bypassing can distract from real healing and disconnect us from reality
- The myth of constant happiness and why true bliss involves emotional depth
- Cultivating self-compassion to transform trauma, fear, and emotional heartbreak
- Healing from the inside out by embracing pain as a teacher and guide
- A 20-minute guided meditation/compassion practice led by Ralph
- Ralph’s transformative rehab experience and introduction to Buddhist teachings
- Developing an embodied sense of self-love, safety, and inner affection
- Exploring subjective perception and rewriting our personal and collective narratives
- Using curiosity as a stepping stone when we are struggling to get to compassion
- Healing trauma by reconnecting with the inner child (with therapeutic support)
- Acknowledging our defense mechanisms and communicating with the parts of ourselves that are stuck in survival mode
- Letting go of past emotional residue and rebuilding trust in the heart’s wisdom
- Understanding the difference between real love/compassion and codependent patterns/poor boundaries
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About Ralph De La Rosa:
Ralph De La Rosa (he/they) was a teacher of human spirituality, an internationally published author and a trauma-focused psychotherapist. Ralph worked in private practice and was a seasoned meditation teacher known for his radically open and humorous teaching style. He was personally mentored by Richard Schwartz, founder and developer of Internal Family Systems. Check out Ralph’s book, Outshining Trauma, which focuses on trauma and radical self-compassion. Learn more about Ralph on his website.
“We're all holding traumas. We've all been bruised by life in large or small ways. What that is, is an invitation to find and open the heart of compassion, the heart of loving kindness that already exists within you. It's right there.” – Ralph De La Rosa
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| 0:00.0 | Hey everyone, it's Ragu, and I'm back with another mind-rolling podcast, and today I'm doing something a little bit different. |
| 0:24.2 | This is actually in honor of someone who, |
| 0:29.3 | interestingly enough, I felt very close to, |
| 0:33.6 | who passed a week ago or so. |
| 0:37.7 | And his name is Ralph de la Rosa. |
| 0:41.8 | And those of you who've listened to Mind Rolling, |
| 0:46.5 | I did several podcasts with him. |
| 0:49.6 | I found him so honest with himself and with the trials that he went through. |
| 0:56.3 | Tremendous trauma Ralph went through. |
| 0:59.8 | And I just wanted to, as I said, honor Ralph through a podcast that was put out as a guest podcast because Ralph worked with the |
| 1:13.5 | Lobserv Remember Foundation and the fellowship. He worked with Jackie de Brinska. |
| 1:19.5 | And they did a wonderful piece one day, broadcast one day. And within it is a really great, pretty long, like 15, 20 minutes, |
| 1:33.6 | something like that, guided meditation from Ralph that I thought is worth the price of admission. |
| 1:40.5 | And he tells a little bit about his story and so on. You can refer back to the podcasts that are on mind rolling because we went, especially |
| 1:49.5 | the first one, we did go through a lot of how he came into this world and some of the |
| 1:57.0 | unfortunate trauma that he experienced. |
| 2:00.6 | We all have trauma in our lives, |
| 2:04.8 | and especially here in the West, |
| 2:06.6 | and growing up in this particular society, |
| 2:10.9 | and the way in which there's so many trials |
| 2:17.3 | to be able to connect, |
| 2:21.4 | that prevent us from connecting with our true selves where we can relax. |
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