Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Morgan Anderson, psychologist, relationship coach, attachment theory expert, creator of the ESL relationship method, author of Love Magnet and Athletic Wear Connoisseur. My mission is to help you raise yourself worth, have great relationships, and step confidently into the next level of your life.

Each week, two episodes will air featuring expert advice, live coaching, and tips, showing you

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secure, and love. Buckle up and Let's Get Vulnerable. Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable

podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Morgan. This is part three of our three parts series. We're talking

about what is really going on when you're deciding to heal and the internal experience

and what goes on in your life. I feel like this is all the stuff that nobody talks about

that I wish someone had told me. So part three is you're in the journey. You're doing the work.

And when people say doing the work,

what do they mean? There's a huge, huge, huge, huge spectrum of what doing the work means? And

here's where I get, I guess, a little bit frustrated is I think a lot of people will say they're, quote, unquote, doing the work, but they're not.

For me, if you are talking about doing the work, you are actually addressing the roots of your current problematic relationship patterns and behaviors. Let me say

this. Again, when you're doing the work, you are addressing the roots of your current

problematic patterns and behaviors. So some people could say, I'm doing the work,

and you're going to therapy, and you're talking with your therapist about what happened

in your life that week. I'm calling out a lot of people in that. It's a little and comfy for me to do.

But that's the truth. Like, there's a lot of people that are

like, I'm going to therapy. And then they go to their therapist and they sit there for an hour and they say,

well, Sharon said this. And then when that happened at work, I got pissed off about that. And then,

you know, I missed that call for my dad. And then I never called him back. And then I felt super anxious about that. And then, you know, I missed that call for my dad and then I never called him back

and then I felt super anxious about that. And they're just going blah blah blah blah blah blah.

They're talking about what happened in their life that week. And the therapist either isn't

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