EP 583: Inside the Mind of the Avoidantly Attached Partner (and How They Can Heal)

Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

Dr. Morgan Anderson

Mental Health, Relationships, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education

4.6 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 29 September 2025

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Summary

Avoidant attachment gets such a bad reputation, but the truth is much more nuanced and hopeful. In this highly requested episode, I break down what’s really happening inside the avoidantly attached partner’s mind, why intimacy can feel like danger, and most importantly, how healing is absolutely possible. Whether you identify as an avoidant, you’re anxiously attached, or you just want to better understand relationships, this episode is for you.

Inside the episode, I share:

Why avoidantly attached partners distance themselves (and why it’s not about not caring).
The truth about healing avoidant attachment (and what it really takes).
How you can build safety, connection, and secure attachment—even if avoidance has been your default.

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Morgan Anderson, psychologist, relationship coach, attachment theory expert, creator of the ESL relationship method, author of Love Magnet and Athletic Wear Connoisseur. My mission is to help you raise yourself worth, have great relationships, and step confidently into the next level of your life.
0:22.3	Each week, two episodes will air featuring expert advice, live coaching, and tips, showing you
0:28.4	exactly how to improve your life and attract a healthy relationship. You deserve to feel empowered,
0:34.8	secure, and love. Buckle up and Let's Get Vulnerable.
0:41.8	Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast.
0:44.7	I'm your host, Dr. Morgan.
0:47.0	Today's episode has been highly requested.
0:51.4	We are going to dive into the mind of the avoidantly attached partner. What is going on
0:58.6	with someone with avoidant attachment? This will benefit you if you experience avoidant
1:05.3	attachment yourself. Maybe you have a disorganized attachment style so you relate to showing up this way at times.
1:14.0	But this will also benefit you if you have an anxious attachment style or even secure
1:19.0	and you're simply wanting to understand a large percentage of the population.
1:26.9	And if you have anxious attachment, understanding avoidant
1:30.5	attachment is very important because it's likely a huge percentage of the people that you are
1:37.4	attracted to, not just in your romantic life, but even in work, friendships, et cetera. So this is a really important episode.
1:46.2	And I'm thinking about making this a series. Send me a message on IG at Dr. Morgan Coaching,
1:53.9	DR Morgan Coaching. Let me know. Should this be a series where we go, anxious attachment,
2:00.2	disorganized, secure, and we unpack each attachment style?
2:06.0	Okay, number one, I want to say this.
2:09.7	When we talk about attachment styles on this podcast, the goal is not to judge people.
2:15.4	It's not to label people a certain way. The goal is to understand.
2:22.9	When we have understanding, then we're able to heal. We're able to have change, right? So that is the
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