EP 562: Why Your Inner Child is Ruining Your Dating LIfe: The Truth About Attachment Wounds

Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

Dr. Morgan Anderson

Mental Health, Relationships, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education

4.6 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 16 July 2025

⏱️ 30 minutes

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If you don’t take the time to heal your trauma at the root, it will continuously sabotage you. Inner child woundings never dealt with will absolutely RUIN your dating life. I am getting very real with you today about the importance of healing your inner child, and where to start.

Inside today’s episode:

I realized that unhealed childhood wounds were quietly shaping how I showed up in dating, and not in a good way. Emotional dysregulation, low self-worth, and seeking external validation were all signs that my inner child was running the show.
I had to learn how to reparent myself; meeting the needs of my inner child with compassion, safety, and validation, so I could stop projecting old wounds onto new partners.
Doing the inner child work was the key to becoming securely attached and finally embodying the type of partner who attracts secure partners.

If this episode spoke to you, it’s time to take ownership of your healing.

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Morgan Anderson, psychologist, relationship coach, attachment theory expert, creator of the ESL relationship method, author of Love Magnet and Athletic Wear Connoisseur. My mission is to help you raise yourself worth, have great relationships, and step confidently into the next level of your life.
0:22.3	Each week, two episodes will air featuring expert advice, live coaching, and tips, showing you
0:28.4	exactly how to improve your life and attract a healthy relationship. You deserve to feel empowered,
0:34.8	secure, and love. Buckle up and Let's Get Vulnerable.
0:42.0	Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast.
0:44.4	I'm your host, Dr. Morgan, and today's episode is a juicy one.
0:50.8	I know I say that a lot, but this one really, really is.
0:53.8	We are going to talk about ways your
0:56.1	inner child is ruining your dating life. And I think I've talked about this before, but in different
1:04.3	ways. And this episode may hit even more deeply with you. So let's get into it. Number one, what the heck is an inner child?
1:13.4	I think when I was kind of early in my training and in clinical psych,
1:18.9	and I was working at a counseling center in San Diego at a college,
1:24.4	and we had this person come and do a workshop and they were talking about
1:29.8	self-compassion and your inner child. And I remember this person kind of had that like
1:37.0	hippie kind of vibe. You know, they were wearing like long, flowy clothes and they had the like beads around their neck. And I was just like,
1:48.1	what kind of California hippie BS have I stumbled upon? And then joke is on me because obviously
1:58.3	self-compassion and inner child work is a huge part of what I do and a huge
2:03.9	part of what I teach my clients. But in case you're that person that is skeptical that is going,
2:10.7	what the heck is an inner child? I just want you to know. I get it. I've been there. It sounds a little
2:17.0	woo-woo. But this is a way to help you
2:21.2	understand parts of yourself that haven't healed your childhood woundings, your childhood
2:29.9	unmet needs, understanding this part of yourself also, that is, as a lot of us understand,
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