Ep. 56 - How to stop holding onto your breakup rules

How to Get Over Your Ex

Dorothy AB Johnson

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.7 • 577 Ratings

🗓️ 7 September 2020

⏱️ 23 minutes

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Summary

What is the "right" way your ex should act after a breakup? Your many answers to that question are the set of rules you're expecting him or her to follow—and it's keeping you heartbroken. So, in this episode, I'm going to help you break them.

Unlike laws, there aren't established "breakup rules." Like laws, even if there were legitimate policies on how to act, people are going to disobey them anyway.

That being said: in order to get over our exes, we have to learn to let go of these personal expectations for our greater peace of mind. Today, I'm going to make sure you leave knowing just how to do that.

What to expect:

Learn what rules you're holding onto during your breakup
Understand the workings of your subconscious brain and why it keeps you enforcing these "rules"
Become immune to your ex's actions even when they break these said rules

Transcript

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0:00.0	You are listening to How to Get Over Your Ex, episode number 56, how to stop holding on to your breakup rules.
0:07.0	Welcome to How to Get Over Your Ex, a podcast on getting over your ex without it just taking time.
0:23.1	I'm your host, breakup coach Dorothy.
0:25.2	Let's turn your pain into power and your heartbreak into happy.
0:31.5	Hello, my brave hearts.
0:33.5	How is everyone doing today?
0:36.1	Talk to me.
0:37.4	Share with me how your heartbreak journey is going i would
0:40.6	love to hear from you on instagram at breakup coach dorothy so today i wanted to talk to you
0:48.4	about living in a world with no rules we think there are rules to this world and I get it. I am a rule follower.
0:58.2	Like I don't like breaking the rules and then getting called out for them. Like I hate that.
1:04.1	So I totally get it. However, all the rules that are in the world right now are just made up.
1:12.9	They're just made up human rules. decided on a construct of taxes and the government and made all these rules to go along with it
1:18.8	and they're just mental constructs that people grow up learning about we have mental constructs
1:25.0	around time around money and rules that go along with all of that.
1:30.3	And we have constructs and rules that are formed around human relationships, right?
1:38.3	Like, be kind to one another, don't steal from each other, don't say mean things to someone aka don't hurt
1:45.9	their feelings um make sure to take it slow getting into the next relationship right wait a while
1:53.1	before diving into your next relationship don't ask people questions about their money um they're
1:59.7	inappropriate and appropriate things to talk about with certain people.
2:04.8	Another one that I hear a lot recently with my clients is your family,
2:08.8	or they think my family should unconditionally support and love me.
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