EP 549: I Didn’t Trust Love… Until I Healed My Disorganized Attachment

Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

Dr. Morgan Anderson

Mental Health, Relationships, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education

4.6 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 2 June 2025

⏱️ 44 minutes

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In this episode, I dive deep into the complexities of disorganized attachment—how it develops from inconsistent caregiving and relational trauma, and how it can make intimacy both desired and terrifying.

I share the key signs of disorganized attachment and offer tangible steps for beginning the healing journey toward secure love. If you've ever felt like you were stuck in a push-pull pattern or afraid to fully trust, this episode is for you.

I break down the 7 signs of disorganized attachment and how they show up in your dating life.
I explain why emotional regulation and self-soothing are essential skills on the path to secure attachment.
I remind you that healing is possible—and it begins with recognizing your worth and intentionally creating the kind of love you deserve.

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Morgan Anderson, psychologist, relationship coach, attachment theory expert, creator of the ESL relationship method, author of Love Magnet and Athletic Wear Connoisseur. My mission is to help you raise yourself worth, have great relationships, and step confidently into the next level of your life.
0:22.3	Each week, two episodes will air featuring expert advice, live coaching, and tips, showing you
0:28.4	exactly how to improve your life and attract a healthy relationship. You deserve to feel empowered,
0:34.8	secure, and love. Buckle up and Let's Get Vulnerable. Welcome to the Let's Get
0:43.8	Vulnerable podcast. It's your host, Dr. Morgan. Today's episode is going to be incredibly helpful.
0:52.6	I am focused on talking about disorganized attachment style.
0:57.5	So I will get into what is disorganized attachment style, why it is often misunderstood.
1:04.5	Obviously, we are going to give you some signs. I think I have about seven things mapped out that I will tell you if you
1:13.4	experience these things, then you likely have a disorganized attachment style. And then we will
1:18.8	talk about how to move towards secure attachment. This style does not get talked about enough.
1:26.0	It is incredibly painful. This was my attachment style for the get talked about enough. It is incredibly painful.
1:31.9	This was my attachment style for the majority of my life.
1:37.4	And I know all too well the consequences of living life this way. So I really feel like it is my duty to talk about this, to bring to light the experience of the person with this attachment
1:47.6	style, and then obviously to talk about how do we heal it, how do we change it? I wish you guys could
1:55.4	have seen me. Before I started this episode, I was doing my red light mask that I have and I, like, in my
2:04.7	bathrobe. And then I, for some reason, have been craving pickles. No, I am not pregnant. But I don't
2:11.8	know what it is, but every summer, I'm just like, I got to have pickles. Does anyone else have, like, random pickle cravings? So I'm just like, I got to have pickles. Does anyone else have like random pickle cravings?
2:20.1	So I'm just like in my red light mask, in my robe, eating my pickles, preparing this
2:25.7	episode, getting all the bullet points, brainstorming.
2:29.1	Super wish you guys could have been there.
2:31.1	We would have had a laugh for sure.
2:37.1	But I'm still in my robe, but we have the red light mask. It's done and I'm not eating pickles while I record because that would be
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