EP 545: 10 Things You Quit Doing When You Become Securely Attached

Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

Dr. Morgan Anderson

Mental Health, Relationships, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education

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🗓️ 19 May 2025

⏱️ 23 minutes

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When you are becoming securely attached you may realize that you don’t know what secure attachment looks like in practice. In today’s episode, we discuss the journey of moving from insecure attachment styles to secure attachment in relationships.

Inside today’s episode:

Break the Cycle of Avoidance: Transform your relationships by confronting difficult conversations head-on and stop mistaking emotional intensity for genuine connection.

Raise Your Standards: Release the habit of accepting relationship "crumbs" and dating someone's potential rather than who they actually are today. When you stop settling for less, you create space for what you truly deserve.

Reclaim Your Self-Worth: Make yourself your greatest investment by acknowledging that personal growth happens outside your comfort zone. The path to fulfillment isn't found in romanticizing the past or making love your ultimate goal—it's found in choosing yourself.

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Morgan Anderson, psychologist, relationship coach, attachment theory expert, creator of the ESL relationship method, author of Love Magnet and Athletic Wear Connoisseur. My mission is to help you raise yourself worth, have great relationships, and step confidently into the next level of your life.
0:22.3	Each week, two episodes will air featuring expert advice, live coaching, and tips, showing you
0:28.4	exactly how to improve your life and attract a healthy relationship. You deserve to feel empowered,
0:34.8	secure, and love. Buckle up and Let's Get Vulnerable. Welcome to the Let's Get
0:43.6	Vulnerable podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Morgan. Today's episode is all about the things that you
0:50.5	quit doing once you become securely attached. I think this is a helpful episode because
0:56.6	if I think back to when I was in the middle of my healing journey, still showing up with
1:01.9	disorganized attachment, still really not having the outcomes I wanted in dating and really
1:08.0	struggling, I just didn't even know what it looked like to be securely
1:13.6	attached. I didn't have the identity of secure attachment. So I was thinking about this episode
1:21.0	as something really, really helpful for you as a guideline of, hey, these are the things that you
1:27.0	no longer do as the securely
1:29.9	attached identity version of you. And I think some of these will surprise you. There's definitely
1:36.3	some really, really powerful things to be thinking about. Some of them you might be aware of,
1:41.3	but they're also very helpful to review and remind yourself of.
1:45.2	So let's dive into it.
1:47.6	Okay.
1:48.1	These are all things that I used to do, by the way.
1:50.9	So please, no judgment.
1:53.1	We're not being self-critical.
1:54.7	We're simply going to look at this list and realize these are things that you do not take with you when you become your
2:02.7	securely attached self. Okay. And just as a reminder, we have limited spots inside the founding
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