EP 522: Releasing Shame and Feeling Compassion for Yourself with Sheylee
Life Coaching with Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler
4.8 • 1.7K Ratings
🗓️ 10 December 2025
⏱️ 41 minutes
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Summary
In this deeply moving session, Christine supports Sheylee—a devoted mother who is pregnant with her seventh child and struggling under the weight of shame, overwhelm, and fear. After believing she was done having children, this unexpected pregnancy has stirred painful emotions, identity confusion, and unresolved relational patterns in her partnership.
Christine helps her gently unravel the layers of guilt, inner criticism, and pressure she has carried for years. Together, they explore how to hold two truths at once: loving a child while not feeling joyful about the circumstances, being grateful and overwhelmed at the same time, and honoring both human emotion and spiritual perspective.
If you've ever felt shame for how you feel, feared getting "stuck" in a hard season, or struggled to access compassion for yourself, this conversation offers relief, grounding, and a renewed sense of permission to be honest about your emotional reality.
Consider / Ask Yourself:
- Is there something in your life you believe you "should" feel happy about—but you don't?
- Do you fear that if you let yourself feel your emotions, you won't be able to stop?
- Do you often feel unsupported—emotionally, spiritually, or relationally?
- Are you harder on yourself than anyone else is?
- Do you hear an inner critic more loudly than your own compassion?
Key Insights and A-HAs:
- Shame about how you feel is often more damaging than the feelings themselves.
- It is possible—and healthy—to hold two truths at once ("both/and").
- Emotional release is not falling apart; it's moving energy through the body.
- Many women confuse caretaking with connection or worthiness.
- Inner critics often come from childhood patterns of control, hypervigilance, or judgment.
- Spiritual support (God, Mother Mary, or a higher loving presence) can hold us when people cannot.
How to Deepen the Work:
- Practice the both/and: "I love this baby AND I am overwhelmed."
- Create space each day to sit with your feelings rather than suppress them.
- Replace harsh self-talk with compassion through simple practices like Ho'oponopono:
I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you. - Call on unseen spiritual support when human support feels unavailable.
- Identify where old survival strategies are still active—and begin updating them with gentler internal dialogue.
- Explore ways to communicate needs in your partnership with clarity rather than collapse.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | This is episode 522, releasing shame and feeling compassion for yourself with Shiley. |
| 0:07.6 | Welcome to Life Coaching with Christine Hassler, a space where truth and love come together to |
| 0:12.9 | guide you back to your truest self. Hi, I'm Christine, a master coach, author, and spiritual |
| 0:18.2 | psychologist. For over 20 years, I've supported people through |
| 0:21.6 | the deep work of letting go, waking up, and coming home to who they truly are. Each week, |
| 0:27.1 | you'll hear an unedited, unscripted coaching session with someone moving through a challenge or block |
| 0:31.3 | in their life. These are tender and powerful conversations where deep healing happens in real time. |
| 0:37.2 | Even though I'm coaching someone |
| 0:38.5 | else, you will hear yourself in their story. This is a place where you will feel seen and |
| 0:43.0 | supported and walk away with insight, emotional relief, and tools you can apply in your own life. |
| 0:49.1 | Let's dive into today's session. |
| 0:53.6 | Hi, everybody, and welcome back to the podcast. As always, I'm so happy to have you here. |
| 0:59.1 | Just a reminder, I usually drop about one episode a week that's a coaching call and another |
| 1:04.2 | episode that's an interview or a coach's corner from me where I teach something. |
| 1:08.6 | Lately, I've been sharing some stories, which people have |
| 1:11.0 | been loving. So look for that again. And I love this episode. It's a little longer, so I'm not |
| 1:16.6 | going to have a super long intro or outro. But I love it because we talk about shame. And we talk about |
| 1:22.2 | things that we're supposed to be happy about, but we may not be happy about or we might have |
| 1:26.8 | mixed feelings about. |
| 1:28.5 | And in this situation, it's a woman that's pregnant with her seventh child and she's having |
| 1:33.6 | some mixed feelings about it and shame for that. And there's some relationship stuff that we |
| 1:37.7 | get into as well. And I think this is such a important topic because we forget sometimes |
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