The Bear Hunt of Grief | After Hours With Amanda Ep. 51

After Hours With Amanda

Kids & Family, Parenting

5.0 • 697 Ratings

🗓️ 17 April 2024

⏱️ 41 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of After Hours With Amanda, I’m talking about grief, losing my mom, Mother’s Day, and the moment my body basically said, babe, we cannot keep moving around this anymore. This year, my mom’s birthday hit differently, and I realized my grief has changed because I have changed. I talk about nervous system exhaustion, motherhood, mental load, self care that does not always look cute, and learning to honor what grief needs now. If you are grieving something or someone and your old way of coping is not working anymore, you are not alone in that.

00:00 Jumping Right In
00:21 The Intro Music Is a Bop
03:42 Cheer Coach Meeting and Tiny People
07:13 Born in the 1900s Stanley Stickers
08:02 My Mom Was Not on Vacation
09:32 My Mom, Codependency, and Generational Healing
13:04 I Moved Around the Grief
15:02 Scheduling Time to Cry
16:25 When My Body Shut Down
17:59 The Responsibility of Motherhood
19:03 The Nervous System of It All
20:09 Self Care Looks Different Now
23:01 My Grief Has Changed Because I Have Changed
24:30 I Could Not Grieve Like My 20s Anymore
27:37 Learning Not to Set People Up for Disappointment
31:03 Grief, Mother’s Day, and Changing Needs
34:38 You Are Not Meant to Be Cirque du Soleil
36:59 We Had to Stop Stepping Around It
39:10 If No One Has Told You Lately

Transcript

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0:00.0	We are jumping right in with another episode. Welcome back to After Hours with Amanda podcast. If you're new here, welcome. If not, you know the drill. Okay, on a side note, I'm going to put my phone on. Do Not Disturb because I don't want to be disturbed. Okay. I'm, wow. We have a lot to talk to talk about first off can I please just get the intro music
0:24.5	that I had created specifically for this that is such a bop oh my gosh maybe I can play it for you
0:30.6	hold on I'm going to find it for you because I am going to figure out how to upload it so it's
0:35.3	just the intro to every episode oh my gosh also alo if you're watching this you're going to figure out how to upload it. So it's just the intro to every episode. Oh my gosh.
0:38.1	Also, Alo. If you're watching this, you're going to see this. Look how cute. Are you kidding me right now?
0:44.3	I want to sleep in that. I want to wear that cardy during cold weather. Okay. Like, so cute. And then look at
0:50.5	this. They have this new like loungeware. I'm dead. I want it right now. But we're waiting. We're waiting. Okay. We're pacing ourselves. So hold on. I'm going to find this music for you. But wow, it has been, wow, since we talked last week. Honestly, I feel like I've lived a lifetime since last week's episode. I feel like my mom's birthday came and went and took me out this year.
1:14.8	Straight up took me out. And I had not realized the fact that I literally had not grieved in a real way.
1:22.6	And that's not what today's episode is about. Like that's not quite the focus of it. Like, it's not grief, but I really
1:28.2	want to talk about why I think this year was so hard. And in the emotional management department,
1:36.9	like, where we saw some opportunity for ourselves. Do you know what I mean? And just being
1:42.8	gentle with ourselves. So hold on. I'm going to look this up right now because I have this amazing, like I want to call her an artist because
1:49.6	she truly was an artist. Her name was Allison. And she helped me create the music for the podcast.
1:57.1	And I have never interacted with someone. I mean, I've interacted with talented people,
2:03.2	but talent at this level where you are just able to do this and create a song. Is this the one?
2:10.1	Is this my music? I think this is it. So this is what the intro is going to sound like. Are you ready?
2:15.0	Okay. I think this is it. There were a couple options, but I think I'm looking at the email. I'm like, was this the one? Okay. Hold on. Here it is.
2:20.9	Let me. Is it actually going to play loud enough though? Because let me turn it up. Hold on.
2:30.4	Don't you love this? It sounds like something, but it's not that.
2:38.2	Okay, can you just imagine that at the beginning of every episode?
2:42.5	And then we have an outro.
2:44.1	Okay, because an intro and an outro, by the way.
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