In this insightful and milestone 500th episode, Christine coaches Lisa, a woman actively working to recalibrate her nervous system after decades of living in survival mode. Through their work in Christine’s Be the Queen program, Lisa has become increasingly aware of how her high productivity and people-pleasing patterns were actually rooted in hypervigilance developed from childhood emotional abandonment and a toxic past relationship.

Christine helps Lisa move beyond traditional nervous system tools like breathwork by exploring one of the most overlooked regulators: the mind. They discuss how belief systems, people-pleasing masks, and unconscious behaviors can keep the body in a dysregulated state—even when things look “successful” on the outside.

Whether you're a high achiever who struggles to slow down, or someone who feels stuck in a cycle of stress and self-doubt, this episode offers a refreshing look at how mental and emotional honesty are key to calming your system and reclaiming your peace.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you always “on,” afraid that if you stop doing, your worth might come into question?
• Do you feel triggered by others’ behavior and immediately spiral into old thought loops?
• Are your validation-seeking habits tied to unresolved childhood wounds or past trauma?
• Can you give yourself permission to operate from truth rather than performance or perfectionism?

 

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Your thoughts and beliefs are major regulators of your nervous system—not just your breath or body.
• Hyper-productivity often masks dysregulation and old coping mechanisms.
• Rewriting internal stories like “I’m only worthy when I produce” helps calm the system long-term.
• Nervous system regulation isn’t about doing less—it’s about doing from a place of grounded self-worth.
• You can’t fake authenticity; regulating your system starts with radical honesty about what’s true for you.

 

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Begin your day by asking, “What do I really feel right now?” before reacting from habit.
• Use mental inquiry tools like Byron Katie’s “Is it true?” to deconstruct spiraling thoughts.
• Notice when you're chasing outcomes or approval and redirect into curiosity or creativity.
• Instead of defaulting to performative politeness (like saying good morning out of obligation), check in with your body and ask what’s real for you in the moment.
• Remember: It’s not always about doing less—but doing from a regulated, authentic place.

 

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