Hi everybody and welcome to Coach's Corner.

I have another interview for you this week.

Thank you for all of you who've been sharing you love the solo episodes.

I will do more of those.

Probably have another one coming next week.

Today we're talking a lot about people pleasing and being sensitive and being a caretaker and how that really

impacts you at work, specifically around speaking up for yourself, asking for a raise,

maybe staying in a healthy, possibly toxic work relationship or jumping ship when you actually could have improved a working relationship,

but because you were too scared to have the difficult conversations, it was easier to leave

and a lot in between. My guest today is Melody Wilding. She is the author of Managing Up, How to Get What You Need from the People in

Charge and Trust Yourself. Stop overthinking and channel your emotions for success at work.

For more than a decade, she's helped smart, thoughtful, top performers in the world's most

successful companies get the recognition, respect, and pay they deserve. She's a licensed social worker with a

master's degree from Columbia, professor of human behavior at Hunter College in New York,

and former Emotions researcher at Redker's University. Her work's been featured all over the place,

and you can get her new book, which we talk about wherever books are sold. Before we dive

in, I really want to speak to all you people pleasers and caretakers out there, which is

incredibly common. So many of us love deeply, feel deeply, and were rewarded early in life for

making other people happy.

It's become a survival pattern.

It's become a safety strategy.

And for many of us, it's become so ingrained we don't even realize we're doing it.

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