You're listening to episode 48 of the Baggage Reclaim sessions.

I'm your host Natalie Lou, author of Baggage reclaim.com,

where I help people to offload the shady relationships and emotional baggage that block healthy self-esteem and loving relationships.

This week I talk about what to do with those why-them and not me feelings when your ex moves on.

Plus I also share some tips about beginning the process of building your self-esteem.

One of my most frequently asked questions

when people are looking to me for advice is how do they build their

self-esteem? So it's not necessarily how do they start it's kind of like how do I

build my self-esteem to get to the point where I can get the

relationship I want or get the things that I want. They want to know because they

recognize that what they've been doing and putting up with up until this point or for some time has been about the way that they feel about and treat themselves.

So in this first part of the show, I want to talk about why improving your sense of self which improves your

experiences is about starting somewhere and continuing.

Self-esteem is about, it's really the sum of how you treat and regard you. The less that you

treat you with love, care, trust and respect is the less worthwhile, valuable,

and confident that you feel.

And actually it means that it's also the worst self-image that you have, which then affects

your decisions and your choices, which also affects who you spend time around and the types of situations that you engage in.

Now just in case you're unsure about what I mean by self-image, it's like your perception of your appearance or your physical appearance and also your

perception as well actually of your social appearance and where you think you fit in

socially. It's also about your perception of your personality, also your perception of your

of your capabilities like what you think that you're capable of

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