What's up everybody? This is the Betray, the addicted, and the expert. My name is Brannon and I am the expert.

And I'm Ashland and I was the Betray portrayed. And I'm Kobe, the recovering addict.

What you're going to get is three unique perspectives on recovery and tools for hope and healing.

Okay, that's 2018.

2018, here we are.

Been on a little break, but we're back.

Ready to go and renewed.

Yep.

So today's topic, we are talking about the problem

with Mr. Nice Guy, becoming a person that is in, we call it in compliance, where you avoid conflict in the relationship

just to appease the other person and make sure that they're happy.

The problem is it doesn't create happiness in a relationship, it doesn't create

happiness in a marriage, and compliance is a great recipe for resentment and

disconnection and and lying and so why why we're talking about this is I see it all the time where the scenario is

Did day happens discovery happens he either discloses to his wife or he gets caught and she's upset and all of a sudden he's

he's Mr yes ma'am he no matter what he'll do anything just to make her happy and because he feels like he has

no leg to stand on and that he just has to keep her happy and that there's a big problem with this.

Do you know what that problem is, go be?

It doesn't foster honesty, it doesn't foster authentic living it's like it sounds more like sobriety in a in a sense

than actual recovery yeah because actual recovery is knowing who you are and having that self-confidence and

that strength.

And why you're doing it, right?

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