This is episode 413, how to surrender and keep hope when you're not getting what you truly desire with Ava.

Welcome to Over It and On With It. I'm your host, Christine Hasler, and for over a decade I've been a life coach, speaker, and author.

Each week you'll hear me work directly with a caller as I coach them through a goal they want to accomplish or an obstacle they may be facing.

I'll provide a blend of practical and spiritual advice as well as tangible actions you can apply to your own life.

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Hi everybody, welcome back to this show. Still coming to you from San Diego and boy oh boy have we had an expectation hang over here.

I'll tell you a quick story. So we love San Diego. We used to live here. I'm leading my women's retreat here back in October more on that later because I have some scholarship news for you.

And we rented a place in North County San Diego and about three months before I got notification hey the place has termites you can't have it anymore.

And so we actually found an even better place in a wonderful location. It was so great for all of us.

It just suited our needs so much outdoor space and that's really what I love about California's indoor outdoor living and so much outdoor space for Athena.

One of the main reasons we left Texas this summer is because she just loves to be outside and I hate being house traps. So we were so excited. It's just beautiful. It just felt so great.

And before we got there, I had asked. There's a place I've mold. I'm very allergic to mold. California's notorious for mold is an older house doesn't have mold. No, we've never had leaks. Never had issues. You sure? Yes, we're sure.

I should have known better and had it inspected because when I walked in that first day. I was like intuitively. I think there's mold here, but I was in denial tonight's an aisle because the place was so beautiful and I just so wanted to be there.

And I just that was Tuesday and Thursday night I said to my husband. This place has mold. I can feel it. I know it. I don't know if it's black mold. I don't know if it's mold we can live with or mold we need to like get out of dodge with.

He's like, no, this place is so great. I'm like, I know we have to get it tested. So luckily we found this great inspector. His name is Brandon. He was a one man shown set up with the big company, which I love.

And he came that day and had to report that night. And yep, black mold. And I've got a 16 month old and we have to keep the air conditioning on. So it's just circulating through our house. Now we're in a prime spot in the height of summer where everybody wants to be. And there is no Airbnb. There's just nothing out there.

And we didn't want to leave this place to make what's already becoming a long story short. We ended up finding a place this guy that I had message before what's willing to move out of his place so we could have it.

And it's for sure not the ideal. It's for sure not what we were so excited about. But it's safe and it's healthy.

And I tell you this story because it's such a metaphor for sometimes things can look really, really good. And we can be super excited about them, but they actually aren't healthy for us.

Many times that's a relationship that is so like fireworksy and it's everything we dreamed of, but is it healthy.

Sometimes it's the things that maybe are more ordinary and maybe not this thing we're just so excited about that actually are healthy.

And I just want you to think about is anything in your life that looks really good and seems really good and looks good from the outside.

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