This is episode 40 of the Baggage Reclaim sessions.

I'm your host Natalie Lou, author of Baggage reclaim.com,

where I help people to offload the shady relationships

and emotional baggage that block healthy self-esteem and loving relationships.

This week I talk about what to do when you really dislike your friend's choice in partner

and how to deal with narcissically inclined

folk in your life.

I was talking with a friend recently who had started dating somebody and they've been together for about six

weeks or so and it started out with very very high hopes but then the crunch

conversation came and he's basically said that, you know,

he's not really sure what he wants right now,

and that he would just kind of like to see where Finns go.

He's not long out of a relationship and you know he just wants to basically go with the flow.

And she understandably was frustrated with this but also at the same time relieved

because it's six weeks in and it's not like they're having a conversation

several months down the line and it's like now she knows where she stands and we were talking and you know we kind of had a bit of a giggle about the whole situation and I said to her well

He's basically saying I don't want a relationship that has a purpose or a direction.

Now, you might think I'm being hard here, but here's the thing.

It is 100% okay for somebody to not want to be in a relationship, to not want to sort of commit themselves to looking at the possibilities.

They're entitled to do that. But what they're not entitled to do is to make you feel that you should go along with it.

They're not entitled to basically draw every person that they decide

that they feel attracted to into that arrangement. You know, if you like them, but you actually

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