Ep. 36 - Creating closure for yourself

How to Get Over Your Ex

Dorothy AB Johnson

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.7 • 577 Ratings

🗓️ 18 May 2020

⏱️ 9 minutes

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Summary

Oftentimes we leave closure up to someone else. We think we need to have a conversation with our ex but closure isn't what we think it is. And we have the power to create it for ourselves. Stop giving away your power and learn how to close this chapter on your own without his input.

In this episode:

Why we tend to give him the power when we're looking for closure
Why we don't want his input in the closure discussion
The exact steps to find closure for yourself without having a discussion with the ex

Transcript

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0:00.0	You are listening to How to Get Over Your Ex, episode number 36, creating closure for yourself.
0:20.7	Welcome to How to Get Over Your Ex, a podcast on getting over your ex without it just taking time.
0:22.8	I'm your host, breakup coach Dorothy. Let's turn your pain into power and your heartbreak into happy.
0:32.3	Hello, my brave hearts. I just get so excited coming on here to talk to you I know that I'm not
0:37.8	talking to you right here in this moment that I'm recording but I just feel so
0:41.9	connected to all of you and I love doing this so I have so many brave hearts
0:46.1	who are struggling with closure when they come to me they have so many questions
0:50.3	that they want answered by their ex right like what did, what did I do wrong? What could I have done
0:55.0	differently to make you stay? Why did you have to do that? Why didn't you do this? Could you just
1:00.0	tell me this one thing? And the problem with this is that we are giving all our power away to him.
1:07.6	We are also asking questions of someone who did not want to be in the relationship with
1:12.6	us. Therefore, they're not your ideal partner. So the answers to those questions literally would be
1:18.7	no good. Why would you want to get feedback from someone who isn't your ideal partner?
1:25.5	That would be like me going to a construction site manager saying like,
1:29.5	can you provide me feedback on this coaching session? Right? Makes no sense. So I recently had two clients
1:37.8	whom I adore dive into this this week. And this type of stuff was really coming up for both of
1:43.7	them in different ways. And we type of stuff was really coming up for both of them in different ways.
1:45.0	And we walked through my relationship evaluation process to one, get their questions answered,
1:52.1	and two, take back their power. And each of you have all of the answers you could ever need.
1:59.8	You just need to find them from within
2:02.0	yourself so by doing a relationship evaluation it takes the control from his
2:07.0	hands and puts it in yours you can face what went well what didn't go well and
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